With the loss of a loved one or pet wine occurs almost always. However, in this case to make amends or get forgiveness is impossible.
the Most common cause is something not yet done, or was doing something wrong. The fault may occur because the deceased has received little attention, that I need to visit more often and speak kinder. a Sense of guilt before the dead Pets a lot like guilt to the people. We also think that a pet should have spent more time, give more affection and less punishment.
the Wine can occur for the sense of relief associated with the death of a loved one - for example, when a person dies from a serious illness.
If an old person dies, the wine is usually irrational. We blame ourselves for something that is poorly cared for, not found the best doctor, best hospital and the best medicines. Repeated to himself that if he'd created for the dying the best of conditions, he would have lived longer.
Losing a close we are all confronted with the finiteness of life, seeing my helplessness, inability to prevent death or at least to postpone it. Our mind is experiencing a real horror.
guilt, anger denial is all the ways in which the psyche is protected from the awareness of helplessness in a situation of death, failing in any way to control it.
Relive the guilt is easier than the horror of their own helplessness. When we blame ourselves that do not get meds, or not have arrived in time to the dying - we create for ourselves the illusion that our actions could have prevented the death (in other words - to control the time of its occurrence), which of course is wrong.
Quite hard experienced a situation when our request to do something (e.g. to go for something or someone) cause the death of another person. We begin to blame yourself for that if not asked, people would not go and die. And it is also an attempt to maintain control over the uncontrollable. We can't know crash if the car KAMAZ on the road, which will choose the person, we can't know what time it will happen. Sure no one would ask a relative to go somewhere if I knew exactly what was going to be a crash - only in this case, to take the blame logically. In other cases, when we blame ourselves that "did not anticipate", "does not anticipate" we're trying to blame substitute for experience #asistencialista uncontrolled death.
Often the fault is occurring before the dead whom in life he developed very good relations, but while the man was alive - a hope for reconciliation still remains. After death there is a sense of guilt for not have taken the first step, for their pride, for his selfishness, etc., etc., and here, too, wine is a more portable feeling than the fear of death.
Sometimes the guilt is so great that it overshadows other feelings - joy sadness fun love. There is a sense that there is no right to be happy, no right to do other things - have the right only to constantly feel guilty. For example, if during the life of the father or mother in the relationship with them was a lot of guilt, it most often remains after death. And most importantly, over time it becomes less. Upon closer inspection, it turns out that wine is closely soldered to the experience of love for the deceased parent, it can become a way to remember the deceased, and then attempts to get rid of it, stop feeling lead to an even stronger wave of guilt, because the mind perceives it as an attempt to forget and stop loving the parent. Terapeutyczny in this case is to separate the guilt from the rest of the feelings of love, gratitude, desire to remember. Perhaps she does not fully go away, but the sharpness eventually definitely lower, allowing you to feel not only sadness, grief and remorse, and other feelings.
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