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Nobody likes to be guilty. This feeling inside us, like a porcupine-a sadist who with special pleasure shoots needles at our tender flesh. “How could I yell at my child? I'm a worthless mother!” “Why would I do that? She is now offended me”, “whatever I do, everything goes wrong. At me it is impossible to rely” and so on.
guilt can bring a lot of pain, he wants to hide, it spoils the mood. Some people are more prone to this feeling, some less. Why it happens is not the topic of this article. Here I want to describe the positive aspects of guilt. So, if you feel guilty for any reason - you are very lucky! You can say, lucky. Because you realized you did something wrong. Honestly, not everyone can just simply recognize that he did something wrong. Do you have a conscience or something that whispers to you gently: “uh, Missy, and it is here that you was wrong”. This, of course, are lucky if gently. But if not lucky, then immediately takes a sharp needle and stabbing by the most nehochu in the tender places of the soul: “So you! You know how to do that!”
And what many of us do when done? Run immediately to correct the situation? No. They begin to suffer. Wear a crown of thorns and suffer from that fault. Suffer, you might say, sprinkle ashes on his head: “Well, how could I do that? I'm a bloody idiot. Now everything is lost.” Somehow it all looks logical, right? To suffer should the offended person? And on the contrary. Often forget about hurt at all. Guilty as if trying to redeem himself through sacrifice. Bring it to someone good? Unlikely.
What to do if you are guilty of something? You can ask for this forgiveness, and with a pure heart... no, not to live happily ever after, and some time to create something again to offend someone, and so on. Because often a request for forgiveness is regarded as a difficult task and the great thing is, as a deed. After which you can continue to live as he lived. But no. It's just words. Which should stand these actions.
so, if you feel guilty, then you are able to correct the situation and themselves become better. You are able to work on them and change their behavior. You can find a way out, if you really want to get rid of this feeling. If you really want to change something, not just pretend. “I did something bad and now I feel even worse” is a bad tactic. “I did something bad, so I have room to grow and now I have a lot of internal and external work to rectify the situation,” is a good tactic.
There are situations where some people inspire others by guilt. Such are the manipulators. And you kind of understand that in no way to blame, but the porcupine still somehow potitive you with a needle inside. Then ask yourself the question: “where am I still messed up, if you try to take the blame in this situation, if it leads to provocation?” Listen to yourself. I'm sure you will find the answer. And then go ahead! Work on yourself and plan to correct past missteps.
Thank your inner hedgehog - his sense of guilt that you have it. You have to develop, you can do better, you live!
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