Often, praising the child adults as if afraid that he was conceited or spilled, so a little praise, only in special cases. But if in a child's life these cases are Very rare (due to the strict requirements of parents, for example), the child doubts herself more often and more thoroughly. He missed your support. And yet you have it so happens that in the process of speaking to praise the child, you add: "Well, you have pleased me! If the same happened to me in mathematics." Like praise, but the sediment remained. Can and SHOULD be different!
Praise should be sincere.
Praise reflects the pleasure and joy that you experience from a child's actions. If the child has completed the application, but it is rough, sloppy and it just needs to be finalised, it is not necessary to praise this work only because I and so you support the child's enthusiasm for creativity. The child sees that his work requires perfection, point him at this. Naturally gently, kindly, without killing him in self-confidence.
Praise should match the achievements of the child.
do Not include the fireworks of parental joy for any child achieved the goal. Such manifestations do not motivate children, and just devalue the praise of parents. Because you are different you feel proud of your child for his achievements, means, manifestations as well let them be different.
Praise should be specific.
the Child, it is important to understand why you praised him, then it will be clearer what his achievements more valuable. This applies to the Golden praise of "well done." Just done, what's it about? But if it sounds: "it's Great that you wrote these letters exactly, you tried, your efforts helped to perform the exercise correctly." Praising a child should be as close as possible to the act of the child at the time. When the desired action has happened - you notice it with praise. But if after two weeks or more, you suddenly remembered that the child himself went to the store for bread, that praise becomes less effective.
the Praise is improper to be compared to other children.
If you want to see a child was similar to some of the children, you decide him to give an example, but your comparison gives the opposite effect. For example: "wow you jump on the rope, just like Kate, you'll soon be a super jumper". Even if you compare with native brother or sister, is still another child, your message about "be like the other" kills individuality.For a child praise is a source of strength and inspiration, your faith in him. Once you take into account the characteristics of praise, she will get "in the goal" to act effectively for the development of a child's healthy self-esteem!
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