what is the answer to this question?
seemingly suggests itself: “Yes, of course it's important!”. And songs these “you could understand why not being able to do what I dream to bring in you”. And sad to say the words right? Why sad?
Because of the failure to realize the sad and unfortunate, and for the freedom of the sons and daughters of shame. In General, the theme of lack of freedom strongly responds to almost every. That's why the circus is still alive. When a crowd of “free” looks at those who are in a cage and under the lash, and at this time feels strange to drive – fun with fear and pity mixed.
so, we analyze the brick.
first, realisation of dreams, goals and desires will surely give you a sense of freedom, satisfaction from life and yourself, and the same happiness! There is a scientist Abraham Maslow. He described a pyramid of needs. In which the apex is self-actualization. The ultimate goal and need.
second, In addition to the personal happiness of samorealizatsii gives you the opportunity to be happy your children. If you realized his childhood dream of becoming a doctor and loves what they do, your child will learn how to be a doctor, and how to fulfill desires and to follow your inner voice – hear him. This is important. And so throughout, not only in the profession. If you don't realize that hang on the child's own needs, the child grows under the weight of these expectations. The child's psyche is so constituted-he wants to please you, he loves you and he needs you. If I hadn't learned how to defend myself, I may unconsciously expect that my daughter/son is the same make. And this oppression will always be an obstacle to this! Because it is protected from freedom, not from anxiety.
third, with childish dreams and should be able to say goodbye! The main message I want to convey-awareness. Be careful to what you have inside and skillfully manage it. You may not perform something of the children's pictures. I always wanted to buy a wedding dress, like Natalia Oreiro in “wild angel". But the civil ceremony we had during pregnancy. And go out I'm not the son of a billionaire. I dreamed of becoming a teacher. But I didn't. And the doctor wanted to be. But I parted with it because I've grown and changed. And that something was not relevant, not appropriate to me. I just realized, what are the unconscious motivations lay in my dreams. And sold them, but different! You know, the main thing is to be honest with you. And some of my dreams were not realized at all. Dreamed about how I had no brothers and sisters and I grew one and all has got to be just me. But, alas =)) Where do I take them?
fourth, and again about awareness. You will still to expect things from their children. Importantly, even among these expectations is the fact that something may not be true. To you it seriously did! And accepted.
fifth, there are childhood dreams, which seems to have lost relevance, but they can also be =) in this you kids can sometimes help. For example, I love to jump in puddles with my daughter. My mother was never allowed. I also like to arrange a free, free days on weekdays. Love to allow her and myself something I never allowed. These little things do not harm. They make me happier, and help strengthen my relationship with my daughter.
recommended reading:
About the needs and self-actualization-Maslow and K. Rogers
About the meanings and values – V. Frankl.
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