"Before, I felt/feel the world, its vitality, was watching/watched people, I have been able to communicate, feel the Joy of this life..."
With these words begin the story of the people who came to my business for help. I'm starting to get acquainted with the man and his life, with what at the moment is content each day. Often it turns out that with age and increased workload, people have become less and less time to himself. First, all of us few who are taught this skill to "be attentive to yourself, to your inner state", in our country the question "what do you feel?" causes confusion and humor, and this is one of the most important skills through which one learns to understand themselves, to understand their true needs and desires, identify goals and make choices.
"I don't feel the joy". What could be the causes for this state? Globally it is a cry for help that says "I do not feel that living my life". This is a deeply traumatic inner sense of self, which many describe using the image of a "void or hole". At such moments one feels very vulnerable. Often such States are living a very responsible and hardworking people who are hard working. Work becomes their second home. The situation is complicated by social demands, now employers are demanding that people have always been energetic, active, smiling and perfectly performed its work functionality. And people put more and more load, which they for different reasons can't refuse. As a result, in addition to emotional exhaustion occurs and the physical, is simply not strong enough.
When life is filled with intense work, and their own capabilities and boundaries of the people ignores or does not recognize when it needs to rest and load reduction, is a kind of burnout on all fronts. Former favorite activities cease to be fun, the sport helps to relax the contemplation of nature or of objects of beauty is no longer a thrill. Moreover, in the middle a circle of people can feel internally empty, not to feel the same motivation to meet people, make new acquaintances, to communicate and to obtain from these processes of emotional exchange. And sooner or later there comes a time when you don't feel anything anymore and it is scary.
the thoughts that the life rapidly flows past me, and I don't have time to live emotionally, and that I have no strength to look for a mate, give him/her attention, to progress together and give each other heat. But it is a necessary condition for a healthy mental life, and relationships with people is an important part of development and of knowledge itself.
On the advice I ask people about who is the inner circle of their communication, who is a valuable and significant person, as when there are people in relationships with them all more or less harmoniously, all the problems of society external person is able to resolve without the help of a psychologist. But when no such people, life is not enough human warmth, empathy, care and support, a place to recover and to feel that you're safe.
Another reason "the lack of joy of life" is the undeveloped skills of self-awareness in relation to himself, his emotions, needs, desires and boundaries. People are perfectly able to maintain focus on work tasks and to solve them, but inattentive to the process of building relationships, they have little interest in other people. In our interaction the focus quickly shifts from relationships to how faster and more efficiently to solve their complexity, as they are faster, finally, to feel the "joy of life".
how a person behaves with a psychologist who is the same person, can tell a lot about how he builds personal relationships with others. People often do not understand why so much time and attention in therapy is being given to the relations, they say that can perfectly do without it, don't see the connection between the lack of "joy in life" and other people. But I am convinced that relationships play a very important role in everyone's life, and how they are close and full of emotions, depends on the feeling "Brio" life, as her residence.
With this we are working in therapy. I often use EMDR method (about this can be found HERE), this method helps us to reduce the time of therapy and quickly remove the emotional affects. To register for a session, you can HERE or by phone 8-911-245-01-44.
sincerely,
Olga
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