During my two “I”, the two poles of the planet,
Two different people, two enemies.
When one seeks to ballets,
Another seeks to right on running.
Vladimir Vysotsky.
We are in some psychological state, ie. there is no moment when we were inside of a psychological status. Everyone is familiar such as, for example, States:
- quiet confidence;
with fear;
the excitement
- prelaunch excitement;
background anxiety;
the expectation of pleasure, etc.
a Set of human status is huge, although limited. And almost every healthy person experiences them at one time or another. But for the most part, it seems to us that these States come to us themselves and we have no way to influence them. As if they are objective or induced in nature. But in fact it is not. Let's understand this complex issue.
Recently I was in a small mountain hike with his companion – a young healthy woman. In principle, the hike was simple we had to walk several kilometers on a mountain trail with a small climb – 700 m. the Trail was full of spacious, but it suddenly deteriorated, the whole road was littered with crisp winter snow, the heavy thickness, which by early may had not yet descended. Most of the route passed through the magnificent beech-fir forest with glittering white peaks of the mountains around. In short, a lovely walk of the day, complicated by the abundance of snow and strong wind. But “the trouble came from not waiting” my companion held me in mountain hikes fire and water – unexpectedly for me turned into a naked lump of nervous fear. She followed me almost crying and when I brought her to a large clearing, where they were absolutely incredible view of mount Fisht and Pshekha-su, I asked her: “aren't you POPs?”. “No - she replied, I want back down...”
But you should have seen her when we, a little rest, “turned shafts” towards the bottom left of the machine-human was not to learn: changed all – cheerful gait is weary, joyous, confident voice is scared and trembling and a fast paced walk through the deep snow on the way back! That's what it means – change in psychological status. It was like a miracle transformation.
However, this miracle has its causal mechanisms. The fact that the psychological status of where we are – is not accidental. We choose it themselves. But this choice most often happens subconsciously. The main goal of our mentality – to ensure our safety. That is to say, the base firmware. Therefore, if the selection status occurs on an unconscious level, we first selected a state which appears to be most advantageous from the point of view of our self-preservation. A classic example is the notion of a “secondary” or indirect benefits from a particular status, for example, of illness. Subconsciously we select ‘lesser evil” - probally a problematic situation, for example during work involving all hands at work or even a difficult exam. Psychologically it seems to us best, because we get a completely valid reason to avoid a difficult situation. This, of course, the infantile reaction to life's troubles, but that's why it occurs on the unconscious level, because it refers to a response of the psyche “default”. In any case – the choosing of the psychological status is not random and a simple analysis will allow us to find those ‘secondary benefits’ for which this farce was instigated.
In the above example, I & ndash; my companion's negativity in relation to the objectively beautiful places and simple route due to the fact that at the beginning of his leave after many months of hard work in office – the last thing I wanted her mind – to climb up and down the mountains over precipices, because this is again a situation of instability, although in other (more frightening) the scenery, where as the work “every moment to make decisions, decisions, decisions…”
the Main problem why we don't control our psychological States occurs due to a fact that we are in any given moment we believe – that we "are" i.e., identify ourselves with these statuses. We do not know – how to get out of them, but not allow ourselves to dramatically change the previously occupied position, not to pass “inconsistent”, because one of the basic rules of social games – to maintain its identity: in what status you entered in social interaction, in this must come out, otherwise, you will be given a “black label”. And, here, it is the preservation of the same position or status often puts us at a disadvantage and losing. Because of that and there is internal conflict.
So is it possible to get my status? Answer: Yes. The main driver control psychological States should be personal meanings. You discovered for themselves the meaning of – this is the highest form of psychological benefits, which so concerned our subconscious. Status management must come from the superconscious, meta-cognitive, i.e., Volitional structures of the human mind.
To personal meanings become managers – must have the skill of constant search and discovery of meanings. Ie you should be clearly visible – what's the point, to be more precise – what meanings you implement, when you go to one or another psychological condition, or status. Best the status, which you can see at the same time more and more sense in the circumstances of time and place.
Meanings – drivers of self-realization, a kind of engines or, better to say – meaning similar to the boosters of the rocket. When you entered a certain psychological state generated by your found meanings and in this state you realise the self – whatever it is: painting, writing, love delight, climbing to the top… After-fulfillment in these circumstances, it has happened – implemented more meanings you're not interested and you move into a new psychological state. In fact, that is the most meaningful under the new conditions.
Practice “My secondary gain”
Try it now to describe your current psychological status and write down - what are the obvious and hidden benefits it gives you. The here and now. Finally, think – and what a condition it would be more correct from the point of view of those senses, which you would be able to fill it. And if you find this condition, then try to enter it. Do not delay, because their realization cannot be postponed to the next life.
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