You may ask well how can you solve this problem?
Methodology
you Must track when you start itself to blame, blame, regret what you did not finish, could not wait, not think, compare with others, like Bob and Peter better than you and try to stop these inner dialogues.
Instead of self-flagellation to support themselves, to say: "I have done what I've done". Even if you really screwed up - this is normal, you have that right, all wrong, someone in one place who else. The only difference is personal in relation to setbacks, you might think: "Okay, so won't do, let me try again" or "okay, it's not mine, will drym". The person will act on and to consider losses as an investment or a very expensive investment (receiving expensive not only in terms of money, but also emotional, time-consuming) in your experience, or say, "Yes, I tried, but failed, but it was important for me to try, and suddenly it happened, because nobody knows what will end up!"
Take yourself any, unfortunate, funny, ridiculous, made a mistake: sympathize with yourself, pity yourself, say to yourself: "Damn, I tried so hard and nothing came of it, I feel so sorry for myself, I'm so tired" -it would be the love of ourselves.
And when it's good, you have to be happy for himself, to praise himself: "What I have done, today I did something better."
People often ridicule themselves, instead of love and support, treat yourself SEVERELY. Moreover, they also apply to those around them. Cruel and ruthless attitude (the opposite of self-love), is a strategy that is learned from childhood, and adult man realizing what he is doing and how it can change.
In my opinion, quite successfully such harsh and devalues the strategy are identified and transformirovalsya on dynamic psychological groups or in individual work, when the client accesses the psychologist with the request that he considers himself worthless, and sees no point doing anything because nothing will work...
I will Say this, that this wonderful strategy samovnusheniya know firsthand that I, as myself and others are perfectly able to criticize, to undermine, but to sustain itself, make positive feedback it may be harder to work with this and I did it at my own pace.
There is exercise every day to praise yourself, to find something for you to praise, then write it, speak it out loud to yourself or a loved one who supports you and understands.
When a person will cease to compare ourselves with others, to prove something to someone, to draw, to meet and to live his life to support and love yourself, listen to yourself, know YOUR needs and desires, then his life will come to an understanding that they can and what can not. People will be able to set achievable goals and achieve them, to enjoy THEIR achievements, thereby feel stronger, to develop personally and professionally. It is already possible to rely on yourself, trust yourself, and it reduces anxiety and increases the satisfaction and joy of life.
when you set yourself unrealistic goals, reaches them, scolds himself, he himself de-energizes and emboss-reliance, lower self-esteem, and off we go.
Conclusion. You need to change the thinking the attitude to his beloved. Remove scolded the voices yourself if you can or consult a psychologist. Praise yourself, it is a skill which is acquired. Think about what it gives you when you scold yourself, do what good or harm? What do you give if you'll only have yourself to praise and support. Set achievable goals with a small barrier that you can overcome, make the effort. It is not necessary to set goals, to achieve which you must force yourself to vomit, think about what kind of life in this case, you yourself condemn. Make yourself and your desires, tired, relax, want fun, have fun, want travel – travel.
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