Often parents just dream about the moment when their love is finally back in the arms of Morpheus and you can devote time to yourself, talk to someone at the "adult" language, watch a movie, even just quietly to wash the dishes without that you will be endlessly pulling your leg.
unfortunately, sometimes to put our children to bed it is not so simple: they jump around the house in joy and gladness, despite the late hour, or go in the endless circle of the eternal "give me a drink - go to the bathroom", exhausting the patience of the most loving and accepting parents. It is clear that the next day, sleepy children (and adults) who are not really able to function normally and enjoy life.
How to avoid these difficulties? If bad child falls asleep, there is some medical reason (which would be nice to see), it is possible that the situation can be corrected, if not to make the typical parent mistakes. What is this error?
Lack of ritual bedtime
Children need repetitive actions and rituals. It is important that the child went to bed about the same time. The bedtime routine is best to start about an hour before the time when, according to your plans, it would take a miracle of falling asleep. Turn off bright light, no longer actively play, watch cartoons and use gadgets. You can turn on quiet music (if you like), read together, or even just to sit side by side and chat.
Lack of exercise during the day
This is a fairly obvious error. Of course, as tired from exercise baby falls asleep faster. Especially if he did it on the street: children generally move more when they are in open space. However, here we must remember that physical activity needs to stop before sleep, otherwise you can get absolutely opposite effect.
the Promotion of "netanyanu"
of Course, it is important for us to have a good contact with the child if he can't sleep. But sometimes it turns out that we, using the terminology of psychologists-behaviorists, supported by such child's behavior. In other words, our behaviour should not show the child that does not sleep when it was already Packed, healthy and beautiful. It is therefore not necessary to give the child the "snacks" if he's not asleep, be allowed to play. Little too long "hug." and tenderness can be not quite useful in this situation reward: to show that you care just once to hug the child warmly and to cover him with a blanket.
Lack of permanent rules
Rules are important to follow. If you tell your child that if he doesn't go in five minutes, you will not have time to read him a book, do not go back on their word, despite the fact that the child will of course be upset and angry. Parenting through threats is generally not a good strategy, but the most destructive to parent-child relationships of "empty" threats.
the same applies to the time of going to bed (you should not change it without good reason), and consistency requirements that apply to all adults involved in the upbringing of the child.
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