Even back in the 1880s, scientist Wilhelm Wundt opened and proved, that the mind of man has a structure. Therefore works according to some laws of the psyche that influence feelings, behavior and thinking person. These laws cannot be changed, and it is not necessary, but to know and to learn how to use - useful.
Feelings give rise to an experience that directs the vector of the human mind, thoughts are pushing to action. Felt - experienced - showed. Here is the formula of life, helping to live a personally authentic life... BUT!
Life in the society requires to take into account the boundaries of the other. Besides, the only people in the world living creature that feels ambivalent (conflicting) feelings at the same time. And therefore will form the conflict of thought and push to the opposite action.
for Example, Mary feels attracted to Pete. Feelings make a lot of thinking about Peter and strive to take action towards the object of love: call, write, wink. :) If Mary did that, it would have received Pitino feedback. If you like, one if there is no attraction, then the other.
However, the Car mom told me that "all men need one," but in the second grade, tapped the line, and Mike and ridiculed the entire class for what wrote the note and now, in addition to attraction to Pete, Mary still feels fear. Afraid of rejection, osmeivaya, loss of credibility, etc. Fears produce thoughts and also push Masha to action - to be silent, to alienate Peter, to hide her feelings.
And it happens in our head for the most part unconsciously.
so life is on autopilot, based on beliefs from childhood or imposed by the family. Not the fact that bad. After all, there are constructive beliefs on how to live and be happy, achieve success, build relationships... But if lucky with the family and child.
Anxiety and fears paint a frightening future that lies ahead if to be sincere and start doing something that pushed us feel...
Guessing here, perhaps, fly sneakers and tomatoes. Therefore I say, that no, I'm not for everyone to live only based on feelings. Then the man would be little different from an animal. Distinguish us responsibility, conscience, morality. However, relying only on them too extreme. But I am an opponent of the extremes. Friends with heart and brain - that's true freedom, isn't it?
Disadvantage: beliefs can blind us to get what we want, something to aspire to. A particularly strong clash of opposing feelings and beliefs within constructs of identity conflict, anxiety, procrastination and other unpleasant things.
Plus: beliefs can be identified and changed, and therefore we can change our thinking and to do other actions to get a different result. Another result will give rise to other feelings, emotions which are entrenched in the belief changed. And feelings again affect thoughts and then actions, then feelings, thoughts, actions... And so on.
the Result is: the change of painful scenarios, change the old stereotypes for new, gaining confidence and increasing self-worth, freedom from anxiety, and so on.
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