Treason is not when you stop loving you and start to love another
— this is when you lie and hide it from you. (C)
once you have sworn each other fidelity, but You heard a strange conversation on the phone or read something in his correspondence, and suspect her husband (or lover, and ideally – beloved husband) of infidelity!
this Subject is vast, it is conditionally possible to divide it into several articles:
- when You suspect
- Suspicions are not groundless, but it at a crossroads! Haven't decided anything yet.
- He decided. Goes.
Every cheating unique, that is, to give specific recommendations, I would need to hear from you about the following information:
- how would You describe Your relationship in General?
- as far as they can be expensive for You on a scale from 0 to 10?
- do You know the needs of her husband (which for him is the most important in family relations)?
- how satisfy them?
- changed the relationship of her husband (after)? If Yes, how?
how do You know about the affair?
is true if yourself? Etc.
But while the answers to these and other questions I have, will write General guidelines.
- be Aware, though it hurts that her husband – not Your property, and the gift of Life. He has the right to live with whoever he wants. (Just like You) But try to keep the family together. How?
firstly, "he who seeks will always find!"
second, it is a violation of personal boundaries.
third, tell me, what's the point? Indeed:
- If it's empty, so either he removed it or it was nothing.
- Found a tender message or a flirt? Who told You that she will not make a mistake in dealing with him and not alienate him tomorrow?
- Learned that they have a disorder – it does not guarantee separation, because they can be reconciled. "lovers' tiffs are harmless..."
so, what is the reason? I personally don't see it. You run the risk of becoming a "paranoid maniac", which waits until the husband goes into the shower, while nervously shaking, and suddenly he comes out, leaving the water running and catches You?! Or you risk to make a cross-eyed, trying to "reach out" look to the screen of the smartphone...
But it makes sense to keep yourself, your nerves, not to dwell. Try to switch to children, work, Hobbies, whatever! (environmentally friendly!)
the Exception to this is when You know 100% what to write when You are able to make such a perfect, perfect text, after which she "fall off". About how that letter wandering on the Internet (letter to wife's lover, can be read. But in this case violated the border, she regularly read the correspondence of her husband... So be careful with that! Now suddenly she was going to divorce her husband).
Even if he leaves, according to statistics, many men return (exact % will not name).
Even if he leaves, then know that You (once finalised) will be able to more than meet the right man and be happy! Why are You the one who failed to assess You?
Even if he leaves, you know that men always compare. When the first serious quarrel with the other woman's husband will remember You and compare it with You. Therefore, my dear, until you live with a man, live your life to the comparison was always in Your favor! =)
to Take.
a) the individual situation,
b) the male psychology
C) the nature of the particular men.
so, not sniffing, not reading, not looking for women's hair in the car or on the clothes.
Trust. Live and rejoice. Be interesting itself, satisfy the basic needs of the husband (this is not always the "soup and meatballs"! you should be able to identify), to communicate with men properly. (If You have any question "how?" - run to me on the course!
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