a fragment of the dialogue between the client and the psychologist.
Customer: Why I decided to therapy? Now especially painful to me. As if ripped off the crust with a long sagusa wounds and is now slowly bleeding.
the Psychologist: a Long-healed-over wound is a scar. The scar does not hurt, does not bleed. He's just there as a stage of life like experience.
How often in your life You hear the questions or even statements, like this:
"Why rake up the past?" "All that was, has long passed", "we live in the present, without thinking about the past?"
And so it is, we live in the present, here and now. Is it possible, when the memory cemented the situation of the pain, the blocked word, buried emotions? Buried so deep that at present it seems that everything is fine, but the traumatic episode is a childish fantasy, a minor event.
Think.
And sometimes exposed aching pain suggests otherwise. Pop-up questions that have no answers, force to arrive the same way again and again to expose his wounded side and to the same result of its activities, laced with suffering. And it does not matter what type of situations is it - conflicts with parents, colleagues, situation of choice, an extreme situation. It's like a vicious circle where the result is always affected by trauma.
It hurts, but it is familiar. And sometimes it happens that it is easier to suffer than to solve something. Therapy is out of the usual state, this is way out of your comfort zone, strange as it may sound to the human suffering. And this should be ready. It's really like ripping scabs off the wounds, not sagusa (as expressed one of my clients), and rotting, poisoning the body, sores. In order to in its place formed a scar.
Therapy of injuries - it's about the formation of scars, scars cannot be overwritten on the body as a traumatic experience cannot be erased in memory, but the scars do not hurt, do not bleed, scars are not dangerous to humans.
If You are plagued by traumatic situations from the past or the present, if pain interferes with quality to live life, I recommend to seek professional support from a psychologist.
sincerely,
Shiyanovskaya I. A.
+79189204606
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