Often to the sexologist women treated with the prompt "I feel nothing during sex", "I don't have orgasm", "I ceased to be excited".
the Reasons are always different, different stories and solutions, too.
But what unites almost all these questions about the sensitivity, because it is related to your body. Almost always in such cases, contact with the body is broken, its signals are ignored for a long time.
But sexuality - it is bodily. And if we begin to ignore signals of the body, the body in response poorly responds to sensations.
In everyday life we often score on their own feelings and do what is "necessary". And gradually we become separated from your body and live in two houses, the main of which - the head.
If you do not get enough sleep, you body is signaled by headache, fatigue, timidly suggests, "stop, sleep, get some rest." But we have these signals are ignored, sucked a liter of coffee in a hurry and ran to work.
And then suddenly a cold, nose is running, my head is pounding, my ears. The body says to us "you're tired, lie down and rest". It doesn't matter to us that there's a body begging, we drank aspirin, symptoms removed and further.
Or there is a headache - the body asks "was slowed, stop," and we can't have a meeting, a deadline, a meeting. A pill from his head and threw it forward.
And then wonder how so, I don't feel anything, not excited, the orgasm is gone.
Body sent signals I ignored, devalued, spat on them, impose their will "I'm in charge, I decide what to do." We say to ourselves at such moments, "I can deal with it, will not collapse", "think of 37.5 now at work not to go" "I am not a sissy kind to respond to every runny nose."
And if you imagine what we would do with your best friend or your loved one? Ignored, devalued, had imposed its will. Turned friend would be offended, would spit on you? Certainly would turn away.
And the body does the same thing.
There is nothing surprising in the fact that lost sensitivity. Even though with a tambourine your lover around you is dancing, send bouquets, gifts, arranges the date pays preludes for 40 minutes - but the response from no body. It's like a hurt friend who you have turned away long ago. It is useless to look for new erogenous zones and trying new poses.
So the first step is to again make friends with my neglected friend. Listen to him, to give him the attention and care, do not turn away, not to devalue his desires. When this story comes the truce will begin a new relationship, then bodily sensations will be more intense, the sensitivity will become more acute and everything around will sparkle with new colors.
the Body is waiting for us to turn around to face him, notice him, he is willing to forgive and it wants to feel.
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