this morning, in the subway, I looked at the man, somehow subconsciously, you know, thinking about her, but the look was literally chained to him.
I began to think – that it I so catchy? A middle-aged man, looks a little sloppy and listens to music so that shakes the car. However, he read the book and was clearly infatuated.
you Know what Association I had?
He is like the man in the tower, on the highest floor, behind doors, behind walls, and below the approaching enemy – his own thoughts.
Music and the book is a double "armor" out of boredom, the emptiness and deafening silence, all just to fill in the "air" and not to be left alone. Familiar?
I know.
Telephone, TV, game, food, sex, cigarettes, alcohol, drugs...
BOREDOM, fear to face myself, – the main cause of any addiction.
We do not give yourself bored. Just stay in silence. I'm afraid to listen and hear your true inner voice that asks for food or sex and a simple human closeness. Asks for warmth and support, accept, and not reject, to find out, not to run away, to forgive and not to suffer.
Your inner voice is much better to know all you need. Listen...
Every time I find myself on the "flight-to-phone", being alone with myself, I ask myself "What am I feeling right now?", "From what I run?".
I listen, that tells me the voice that I so quickly want to plug the food, pour the alcohol, mix up "about anything."
One of the first steps to dealing with addiction is awareness.
Try to stop, take a deep breath and write down in a notebook:
I feel (felt) now, when I wanted to ... (to smoke, to eat, to drink, etc.)
From feeling what I run? What is now so unbearable?
Sit down, relax, feel the tension in the body ask yourself:
As I feel your body? (head, neck, body, arms, legs, etc. where there is tension, and where not)
- Where in my body lives above the feeling (experiencing)?
what does it experience?
Create an Association, draw or Express in any other way, it can be voice Creek, a moan, a song of lament... Or motion – a sharp, calm, strong or weak, the dance.
If done well, then this is your feeling, avoided feeling.
How was it?
Well, if there is someone who can support you with whom you can discuss the exercise. Thus the best way to yourself is to work with a therapist. I Invite you for a consultation, together we can improve the quality of your life.
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