This technique refers to the direction of Gestalt therapy and is called the "Missing person". It can be performed as in therapeutic work, and at home for greater understanding of themselves.
Stay at home alone, sit back. For the work necessary to prepare a pen and paper. Dive into your childhood and feel yourself in a particular place and time. Maybe it will be some day. And think what kind of person, you lacked then.
It was a man and not of the subject, money, space. It should be a person whose presence has greatly changed your life for the better. It can be: mother, father, grandmother, grandfather, good neighbor, true friend, brother, sister, teacher, coach, etc.
as soon As your imagination have created the right option, begin to transfer it on paper in the form of simple sketches or records. Try to describe what this person is, describe his appearance, exemplary biography, your joint leisure (imaginary, if this man was a part of your life).
Next, consider this:
1. What good would happen in my life, if he was there?
2. Why would the opposite not have happened if he was there?
3. How I lived in the present, if this man would have been in my past?
4. How would look our communication now?
a Good exercise to detect and work with injuries. It has a high therapeutic value.
so looking at the past we can understand the reasons for our behavior and choices in the present.
5. Whether you compensated for the absence of that person, anyone else?
6. On,curled in the end such a person in your life?
7. What, by whom, when was this payment and that it gives you? (If the answer to the previous question)
8. True for you at the moment, compensation is this man? (If the answer was "no,")
9. Whether this is adequate compensation. Whether it suits you?
Answers to these questions, we can understand the causes of our failures, our choices, our needs. To understand his current life for example!
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