Obsessive thoughts is not a pleasant experience, if not directed to what you like and brings pleasure (e.g., solving mathematical theorems, which like to solve). And obsessive they are unlikely to call, they're nice.
the more common obsessive thoughts that cause a lot of trouble, get the sleep, energy and strength. They're hurting, other words are difficult to find.
These thoughts may be about the past: it was necessary to do so and so, if you combine these thoughts we can say that they are all about mistakes that we can't accept and try to correct them in the moment of committing (i.e. in the past).
is about the future, how should I behave and what to do, it's about fear in General and fear of the unknown.
the Obsessive thoughts are not in the here and now, because if something happens then do something instinctively sometimes, and Yes, it is possible to make mistakes, but in this moment at this second if stuck, then you start lamenting the mistakes of the past that can't be edited because it is an accomplished fact of reality. But it is possible now to think I can change that can fix that is here and now.
I have a great friend. She, before making a mistake in their projects, left in sadness. For her it was a defeat, and have become stuck on what I did (which led to the whole tail effects). Now she acts differently, made mistakes of some kind, to sit in the here and now and writes a new plan of action. And failed projects, it's just a signal that I'm doing something wrong, not that I'm so-and-so and the world does not understand me.
And sometimes obsessive thoughts may just signal that something is happening, but we don't understand that.
I Have at one time everywhere seemed a friend, and didn't understand why. Accordingly, it was a lot of thoughts about this man. When I understood what was happening, everything went. For me, this man was the one on whom you can always rely on and get support. And in a time when it needed support, I began to see (at the time we lived in different cities). I frankly admitted: but now I really want support and assistance, but I myself can give support, and to cope with everything (took responsibility in this situation and for the decision of those circumstances that stood in front of me). And what is most interesting, after this recognition, itself the vision of each counter man, this friend stopped.
what's happening to us always sign our body that something is not right, or there are unmet needs. And obsessive thoughts is no exception. Therefore, the most effective way is to understand why there are these thoughts that in fact they we're trying to convey? (this is not about work with symptoms – thoughts, about the cause – something that causes such thoughts). But with this process it is better to be careful, because you can own even more confused, so for a true understanding of what carry obsessive thoughts need understanding and feeling. The psychologist can help, especially if above methods didn't work.
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