Obsessive thoughts is visited by many people. The main difference is the repeatability and anxiety that they provoke. They are usually not associated with the usual activities, the unpleasant appear and get stuck. The danger may be different. Many are associated with social life: the invasion of personal boundaries, injustice, possible loss of job or status, inability to interact and communicate with people. In the modern world these difficulties come to the fore and are not immediately aware and not always. On closer examination it turns out that for every obsessive thought is the anxiety and her fear. Obsessive thoughts, is a provocation of fear.
the danger in our brain the amygdala. It receives signals from the senses, and compares them with past experience which is stored there. When the coincidence signal is generated “dangerous”, and the body begins mobilization. The reptilian brain, where the amygdala is, not very picky. He responds to triggers — signals, which were once associated with danger. The reaction occurs, even if now the situation is not dangerous at all. With this we have to understand the cortex of the brain, i.e. consciousness. It evaluates and confirms the danger, or the release of mobilization. But with this rating and strain relief have difficulty. Unfortunately, the minds of many fails.
Where are the obsessions. Thinking associative. Seen now touches the Association of the past, and the brain constructs a thought, sometimes strange. An alarm is initiated. Maybe me something wrong, if it comes to mind. The first natural desire is to to get rid of unwanted guest. The thoughts you can't control. You can escape, switch, and for a time could not think. But the thought comes back like a boomerang, causing even more irritation of his appearance. This is logical, the emotion that arose when it appears, gave the danger signal. The more actively we struggle with Intrusive thought, the more she becomes attached. The idea is already there, it is a fact, maybe medical. It is a reality. Not to accept it, is to act like a spoiled child who wants a toy — I want it! Well, or don't want to have it, as in our case.
Dialogue with himself:
-what if I don't turn off the gas?
-No, I usually turn it off
-remember Not to today turned off
-Well, then you need to check.
And checks. To remove the anxiety, the person performing the action. Anxious people don't usually trust anyone, but yourself first. Idea, and her anxiety returned, and steps are repeated. Need to check again and again. Distrust encourages helplessness and a host of danger signals. Permanent mobilization of the organism exhausting. The strength to resist the compulsive action remains. So there are anxiety disorders.
turned Off, and you can check out. And when possible actions have been exhausted? For example, there is a suspicion that her husband is cheating, this idea has become Intrusive, and the phone is already checked and nothing else to do to calm themselves? Just awful!
the Brain is dealing with what he has, i.e. that obtained from the senses and processed in the form of encoded signals: signs and images. Well, if the evidence is sufficient, then this is close to reality, and if not, the pictures are akin to detached uncontrollable balloon raised reinforcing threads of thought. “what if...” “No, can't be...” “what if..." While it is possible to find arguments to calm themselves, even “live”, then anxiety through the roof
Muscles are tense, they stop to relax, forming blocks. Body and mind are connected, if washed trigger voltage, the reverse is also true: when there is muscular tension, you can't get rid of anxiety. Vicious circle anxious person. This means that relaxation is absolutely essential. Will help breathing exercises, relaxation through tension and through stretching. The body and the brain are inextricably linked, without their cooperation it is impossible to feel good.
Animals relieve stress very simple. They run away or attack if the danger is real and relax the muscles, like a cat or twitch them like animals when she passed. And all this in real time. The person past and present often get mixed up, and the relaxation mechanism fails, and the tension remains all the negative consequences.
When the failed obsession to drive, start arguing with her. It is necessary to calm yourself! Imagine a dialogue disturbing girl with a friend. She could say to her: “never mind”, “Distract yourself”, “it's not worth It”, “everything will be All right” and something else in the same way. The intentions are good, and anxiety is reduced but the end still does not go away. About how to build and internal dialogue. By agreeing to the search of arguments of sedation, you will not get rid of obsessive thoughts. She has to do — attention. This mental dialogue is the energy that fuels obsessive thoughts. Trying to calm the raging signals from the reptilian brain, the body, therefore, you support them. This is an internal struggle that drains you of energy and vitality. Instead, ponder how all of this is real, do you have enough data to objectively assess the situation and not come up with terrible images in his head, watch his reaction as strained body as it quickens the pulse. You used to respond to the fact that the norm of such a reaction is not intended. It's a habit you have taught your body, it follows that it can be retrained.
Many believe that thoughts, it's almost actions. And, certainly, to influence events and pull them, it's even to the fortuneteller do not go. Therefore, to avoid problems, thoughts must be controlled. These are all elements of magical thinking. To each of us and not once came the ridiculous, sometimes awful thoughts emerging from the weave of associations from the past, fantasy, and weird desires. And nothing alive, it is only a thought and nothing more. Responsibility for actions, after all the Inquisition is past, and the thoughts now are not punished, although attempts continue to occur. Unfortunately, the fear of bad thoughts is very common. “to Even think about it don't you!” - familiar, does not it? Not thinking is at fault mechanism samebecause prophecies, and the reaction to them, but more on that another time.
a Common way to deal with anxiety are rituals. Spit over your left shoulder, knock on wood, the black cat... the list is very large. Uncertainty scares, I want to keep everything under control. Rituals, it is the illusion of control over the situation. Somehow I had to be at the wedding. The institution of marriage is ancient, and rituals there are many. Most of the time and socializing occupied the debates of what and how to do it correctly so that the young were happy. Sorry, but rituals do not save love.
How to break this vicious circle of anxious excitement? “anyone who prevents us, and that we can help!” exclaimed a famous movie character. People live in different climatic conditions. In the middle lane, in the African heat, even in the Arctic circle, where it is cold. In the same areas they feel differently. Happiness does not. One lucky with genetics, they got a strong nervous system; others not so much, it is so sensitive that the slightest trouble that happened. Stress, poor upbringing, psychological trauma — all of it affects someone the starting conditions are better, someone worse. But, just like the climate, they do not determine the quality of life. Consciousness. Evolution gave it to the man. He successfully adapted to the environment and learned how to change it. It can also adapt to its own internal conditions, the nature or laid in childhood, when he could not influence them because of their age. To recognize and consider them in their relation to themselves and to others. You can reduce the increased anxiety, if you understand its origins and learn how to interact with its manifestations. You can cope with irrational fears, panic attacks, using common sense and using the right psychological techniques. It is possible to slip out of the clutches of the obsessive thoughts and look at the situation from the outside. Consciousness shapes your attitude toward what happens to you. It chooses what to do with it. Only it should be used as directed. If iron, in principle, it is possible to hammer in a nail, then consciously control the appearance of thinking will not work, but to form a correct attitude towards them — completely.
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