have You ever wondered what it is about, when people talk about trust?
I got to thinking and realized that I have no idea.
When trying to figure out who that meant, I came across different answers, the meaning of which can be reduced to one sentence, trust is when I can not worry that he or she will make..... (something we don't want)
In such a definition, I think the focus is not on trust but on fear, on what we fear (it will happen), but not in a trust. And if so, then again it is not clear what is meant by trust.
I decided to Google and.....
"Trust in sociology and psychology — open, positive relationships between people that have confidence in the integrity and goodwill of another person with whom trust is in any relationship. However, the main and the first sign of confidence is the existence of such a fact in the relationship as a loyalty. "
Two important aspects that I was interested in this definition, confidence and loyalty.
the Trust, a confidence in the fidelity of the man to someone or something, whether it be views, beliefs, goals or WE.
it has become Clearer now? As for me, not really.
Now it is not clear what lies beneath "confidence" and "loyalty"?
Despite the fact that the words are different, believe that they can be reduced to a common denominator, which I will try to describe the example.
the Car. When you turn the wheel to the right, you are CONFIDENT that the car will go right, a certain rule that is not broken, as the car, TRUE to this rule. If the machine is true to the rule, we believe if we are sure (by turning the steering wheel to the right, we go right) we trust.
the Essence of the example is our knowledge of "behavior" of the machine and testing of this knowledge on experience. When we know, we trust.
we Now turn to our relations.
I will not undertake to say, but I have the impression that people, by default, give 100% trust limit the person they will know. And in the course of communication with him, they put those % confidence. Making conclusions, it is possible to trust, you can't.
if to do otherwise! Not to give people 100% confidence, and give him 1% and he increases the limit of trust.
(that is what the people were deceived and betrayed, they don't trust anyone and don't give even 1%)
it is Important to mention, I consider as "issue" the limits of trust or what to build.
of Course it's actions and deeds. In words, we all did well, but in reality....
the credibility of the person, better for us, based on his actions, as that is what we fear. We are not afraid that she will say that will tell our secret, be afraid that she will tell it. We are not afraid, what he will say about the change, we are afraid that he will go and change. Actions are more afraid than words about these acts.
the Loyalty we have towards the person appears after we see that from time to time, people do a certain thing, then we have confidence that next time he will do the same, because he always did. (likely that people will repeat what you have done, than what will he do something for the first time, though that can happen). And only after confidence, there is trust.
it May seem strange that since the beginning of the confidence, and then trust, it is more logical on the contrary, I trust first and only then sure. But we are talking about a person. Man is not a machine in which we can be sure, but man, your goals desires, needs, passions and fears. Too many variables influences us, everything, guess we can not.
If we talk about human relations, the confidence that binds and restricts. While the trust gives freedom to man, first of all, the freedom to be yourself. As well, the trust said the adoption by one person of another. Taking both light and dark sides.
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