- I'm waiting for nothing really don't, but want very much my dream, my wish came true! Why? And how is it to be? is a common strategy attitude to life.
And you can call it "lazy", "just lazy", "passivity", "the habit of inaction" or "procrastination", the process "waiting for and want, but do not act" these names do not cancel, do not explain and do not clarify the reasons for and possibility of change.
As the person stops themselves from the activity?
1. Why to do something, anyway it will not work!
2. I have already tried five times, turned bad!
3. I don't want to be upset and disappointed if I fail!
4. Others do nothing and they have everything, they are lucky, why do I have to do something?!
5. I tried, turned out not what I wanted!
6. It's a long, hard, tedious, boring! And I want a quick, easy and immediately! And the result was even better than I want!
7. True wishes for yourself come true. If it is "my", then it will come itself when the time comes.
8. If I do and succeed, then mom (dad, half-brother and uncle) to upset, upset.
9. If I do and I succeed, then I will be jealous and I will remain one.
10. If I do and I succeed, I will envy, and hence "jinx", I get sick, I suffer and die.
11. I don't want to "minus" from the execution of my desires! (The car you want and fill it, insurance, police, Parking, repair and other "charms" "no")
12. I am just lazy, impulsive and irresponsible, I can't bring myself to do something every day.
13. If I'm going to do something, that my desire is NOT exactly true!
14. If I do it myself, so it's not real, not genuine, but artificial.
15. I'm scared, and suddenly!!!!
16. I am ashamed to show himself! Others will condemn, ridicule, scold, hurt ...
17. I don't know HOW!
18. And suddenly I'm going to do something, and then understand that all in vain?
19. I was too late at my age to start something...
20. No one can give guarantee that I will succeed. And if there are no guarantees, it makes no sense to do something.
21. .... - and this is the place for your personal reasons "to want, but not to implement". Please at least mentally! This is interesting.
Enough to stop myself!
What about the other point of view?
1. Why do something to do, anyway nothing happens!
Really? If you really do something, something happens - time will be a new experience or two, there will be movement with them new opportunities - three.
2. I have already tried five times, turned bad!
If a hundred times it turned out badly, think about what you can change and make a hundred for the first time, a little better than the previous hundred.
If not for this principle, we would now be sitting in caves and wrote with quill pens.
3. I don't want to be upset and disappointed if I fail!
Oh yeah!!! And to be angry, to envy others, to be upset and discouraged from unfulfilled dreams and desires, of course, a more enjoyable experience! Really? The truth-the truth?!
And if you think and evaluate how much time and effort it will take to disappointment at a negative result? And what will happen then?
And how many have gone to the General negative background "you want, but don't"?
4. Others do nothing and they have everything, they are lucky, why do I have to do something?!
either they Do or they have done in the past, or their ancestors did. In General, someone in their lives have worked Santa Claus and Fairy Godmother.
But in your tale you're now in the phase of "Cinderella wants to go to the ball," right?
Or at what point? What strategy will be effective?
Even Emelya first came to the well, caught a Pike and let her go!
5. I tried, turned out not what I wanted!
it Happens. How about to reflect on the experience, draw conclusions and act on?
6. It's a long, hard, tedious, boring! And I want a quick, easy and immediately! And the result was even better than I want!
Even fairy tale Heroes must first pass "a hundred miles to the forest, to wear out iron shoes" and other difficulties and trials to overcome. And then "a feast for the whole world."
7. True wishes for yourself come true. If it is "my", then it will come itself when the time comes.
And you are ready to "it came"? Just imagine, in five minutes something happened that you want, and...? ready? really? or is the time now to run and something to do while "late guests"?
8. If I do and succeed, then mom (dad, half-brother and uncle) to upset, upset.
half of the cases - not a fact. It only seems that way, maybe, on the contrary, will be delighted.
In the second half of the cases - Yes, maybe so. And have to worry if the Desire is worth it.
This is your life this is your story! Yours is not their unique story.
9. If I do and I succeed, then I will be jealous and I will remain one.
And there will be new friends. People who can't handle your happiness and success, it's not friends, it's envious friends.
10. If I do and I succeed, I will envy, and hence "jinx", I get sick, I suffer and die.
Make a list of ten people or a hundred, if necessary, from real people who have achieved success, happiness - what you want, and live happily ever after.
Use the options - sort of psychologist together with the origins of such beliefs stopping to find a "workaround" for magical thinking or to use available and appropriate rituals.
"give up your life to save a life" - clearly a curve.
11. I don't want to "minus" from the execution of my desires! (The car you want and fill it, insurance, police, Parking, repair and other "charms" "no")
check out the "music minus one" from abandoning desires and go for it! (If it is more convenient to stand the winter at the bus stop, catches the wings of a crowded bus and cuddle with humans under the "move over just a little bit" - that is fine)
Compare the "pros" "pros" "cons" "cons".
12. I am just lazy, impulsive and irresponsible, I can't bring myself to do something every day.
Man by nature is able to raise itself to different quality.
If twenty years to grow lazy and indulge impulsiveness, they will be powerful. But it does not oblige the next sixty years to continue to cherish. You can educate yourself and other traits.
13. If I'm going to do something, that my desire is NOT exactly true!
Good to explore, where does this irrational belief. What children experience behind it? Or it's the wrong word?
But what about those cases where "doing something and it turned out cool"?
14. If I do it myself, so it's not real, not genuine, but artificial.
that is, if the cake he baked or bought - it is a fake, and if aunt Glasha gave a genuine article? Really?
15. I'm scared, and suddenly!!!!
Scary, of course. This is normal.
Fear is the optimal, "right" reaction to the unknown zone.
And it is worth listening to - there's something really dangerous in my actions? If Yes - then stop and change the route to something more secure.
But if it's fear, to gather, to focus and to be attentive - and forward. Eyes are afraid, hands do.
16. I am ashamed to show himself! Others will condemn, ridicule, scold, hurt ...
Mmmm... you're not torturing cats, old women to offend and other improper conduct to create a dream, right?
If your desire is constructive, go for it.
If ashamed to be themselves - to the psychologist, and learn to distinguish between healthy shame (which in defense of cats and women), from toxic.
17. I don't know HOW!
Look for information. Start with something simple with what I know or assume that might be the topic.
you don't have to try to build a complete model of what "I do not know".
In the phase of "don't know" as the time - to explore the unknown zone, to get acquainted.
18. And suddenly I'm going to do something, and then understand that all in vain?
But it will be the exact knowledge that "all this" is a hundred percent not mine. That is, "all in vain" it is in any case will not.
Just get in there, listening carefully to myself "go there" or not.
19. I was too late at my age to start something...
When I hear this phrase from people, "sixty", I'm beginning to wonder: could it be?
But when someone says twenty-five and thirty... - Later, when Bob is lying on the cemetery, completely dead, hypothetically and suddenly realizes that he would like to live my life again.
that is later. As long as you live - to live and to do something to create your life is always on time!
20. No one can give guarantee that I will succeed. And if there are no guarantees, it makes no sense to do something.
How about the interest? Interest in what happens. As it will turn out. And what you'll be if you reduce your overcontrol, and allow yourself to act WITHOUT guarantees, more spontaneously?
21. .... - and this is the place for your personal reasons "to want, but not to implement". Please at least mentally! This is interesting.
And your arguments in favor of "to act and live", please!
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