the influence of the RELATIONSHIP of MOTHER AND BABY ON the FORMATION of CHARACTER.
what Your little one in the future will perceive the world depends on the early years of his life.
the Task of mothers in the first year of life a baby is completely safe and environment friendly – then the child will have perfectly formed basic trust in the world and in adult life it will be socially adapted optimist. In 50 years, a study was conducted which examined the lack of emotional and tactile contact on a child's development. Babies were fed, changed diaper but not taken up and communicated with them verbally as a result of this cruel study, all infants did not survive to 6 months. For the baby it is important to know that the adults not dangerous, friendly and respond to the needs of the baby. British psychologist and psychoanalyst John Bowlby wrote that the relations that arise between mother and baby in the early years of life are evolutionarily programmed for survival. In short we can say that according to Bowlby, the child thinks "I am how they treat me". His theory of attachment highlights several types of attachment of the child to the mother and in consequence of the manifestation of certain personality traits : reliable (secure) attachment, insecure attachment (it includes avoidant attachment and resistant attachment). Consider the different types of attachments:
the Child with a secure attachment. The mother (or the person who takes care of the child) is warm, sensitive to the requirements of the child, consistent, quickly responds to the cry and needs of the child). The child willingly explores the world acts boldly, rarely cries, in kindergarten quickly finds friends, has good self esteem, easily possessed themselves if upset about something, teachers are easy to agree with him, when placed in another family adapts easily to new for adults, ready to build a new relationship, because he knows that the world is friendly and adults will take care of him.
a Child with avoidant attachment. Mother often emotionally unavailable, she doesn't like too strong dependence of the child can praise your child for independence and the ability to hide feelings. The child at the end of the first year is not very committed to the physical contact with mother, but gets upset when he is left alone, may occasionally show sudden anger towards the mother. In the kindergarten can be aggressive, angry, not listen to adults. When he gets hurt, is not asking for help. When placed in another family cope with the difficulties without asking for help from what looks to be a little too independent and emotional, while adults may gradually move away from the child, feeling very unsatisfied.
Kid resistant (ambivalent) attachment. Mother is inconsistent, unpredictable and chaotic. Showing love to the child when she herself is in need and not always exactly when you need child. Tend to notice the baby when he cries, often does not notice the needs of the child when he is calm. Baby cries a lot, demanding, angry, barely let mom be anxious in terms of its possible disappearance, has been limited study of the world. In kindergarten naughty and often highly anxious, overly dependent on adults, can become a sacrifice that hurt. Caregivers or spoil such children, or angry. When placed in a different environment may emotionally react to anger, thereby attracting attention to himself.
we must remember that the quality of relationships - the key to independence and self-esteem of the child in the future. A child who has a secure attachment to one person, in a consequence may well to build new relationships with other adults, siblings and other children.
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