We live in an age of temptation. It seems that everything that surrounds us is available. Warm sea, palm trees, fast cars, beautiful things. We see it every day. In social networks, in Instagram. We see happy, tanned, happy people. People who are not better than us, the same as we are. But to fully be the same, rest in Bali and Goa, to race modern cars and live in Moscow city, we are missing something. What?
“we Need to motivate myself!” - prompt colleagues-coaches.
“Set goals and achieve them!”
And then we will have what we see in the pictures a beautiful life.
Thanks, I'll think about it…
We live in an age of temptation. The temptation to be someone else, not yourself. To set before him NOT HIS goal. And, approaching him, disappointed.
I'm not talking about the fact that many of these imposed on us beautiful pictures for us goals simply unattainable. Unattainable because we just aren'T. By birth, by inclination, by genetics, according to life priorities.
And what do you do? Work on yourself?
Alas, this does not lead to happiness.
For starters it would be nice to know what we need actually. Should that person, the person that we are.
Remember the poem Eduard Asadov “What is happiness?” it contains: passion, thrills, power, money, love, intimacy with another person, peace of mind… And concludes that “happiness is different growth”, depending on the person.
depending on what we are as a person.
it follows the following steps: we need to set goals appropriate to our personality, and not forcing a person to conform to the objective.
Then, in the words of hunter S. Thompson: “a Person chooses the path that will allow his abilities to be realized with maximum efficiency towards the satisfaction of their own desires. However, he meets the needs of (showing their personality, working in accordance with their own abilities towards the goal) and avoids troubles to the realization of his potential (choosing a path that is not limited in his self-development)»
he adjusts his aim to match his abilities and desires.
It's easy and it's not easy.
Just – because we do not lose energy towards the achievement of a false, imposed on us targets. It remains to live.
Difficult – because it is not easy – to know themselves, their identity. With all its abilities and shortcomings. It is not easy to break patterns that we are accustomed to act. Hard to give up goals that used to take her.
But if this is your goal, or they are forced upon us by society, others, folks?
we often think the purpose of that was really the desire of our parents. Not less often – what is required of us by our social role.
But, knowing who you are what your deep life scenario, what actually do you want, what your needs and desires, you have to set a goal. And quite logically, they become achievable. Simply because these goals you give your energy.
And this way I regularly attend with their clients. Probably because it is the most direct path to human happiness…
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