Victimblaming - a special form of abuse, which can rightly be called a plague spooky psychobabble of education.
the Consequences of this phenomenon, alas, disastrous for the individual and for society as a whole.
the BELIEF-BASED PHENOMENON: everything that happens to me I blame myself.
the PSYCHOLOGICAL BASIS of the PHENOMENON: cognitive error of the brain "belief in a just world" (see Wikipedia). The thing is that one of the basic psychological needs of the human psyche - the need for security. And the basis of security for our brain - in a predictable and objasnjaete surrounding phenomena. Of course our brains are scared to death of the world in which something bad can happen at any time, so we usually seek a variety of ways to explain to myself the cause of any injustice. What the main thing is to explain it somehow, because even a bad explanation still gives that same feeling of predictability, and predictability to the psyche the same as security, because even if it is bad - it is clear how to exist.
CONSEQUENCES:
It is because of this child (and sometimes quite infantile) inability to face something unpleasant and to experience a sense of helplessness and injustice around easier for the person to blame what happened to him than to support. In the mind triggers the thought "if it's not his fault, and it happened just so, so me!" - but this idea is not even fear, and outright panic vyzhivatelnogo. The reverse side of the same coin - the same people in case of any failure will be blamed themselves.
With a global perspective of the world, I loved the idea that everything that happens to us we attract themselves - their States, emotions, desires. I also liked the idea that the people through whom we live with inadequate experience just for this experience we meet. Of course the condition and experience is the area of our responsibility, but the responsibility here has nothing to do with guilt for what happened and ever does not remove the responsibility from the other side.
in terms of a more vital and prizemleniya, it is possible to take for example the case of violence. According to research by the science of victimology (the science of the behavior of the victims) victims of a particular injustice to myself often unwittingly provoke the situation and often even the victims is not. And if from the point of view of the global philosophy can be long to reflect on past lives and relationships, in real life, scientists came to the conclusion, that there is the concept of "true victim".
a REAL LIFE EXAMPLE:
the Girl returned home on a dark street and are confronted with the rapist.
global point of view: the girl herself drawn into his life this event is, literally, her unconscious was looking for this experience and he "took her" on this day it is on the street.
you can say that he's a rapist - the person with psychological trauma, bad childhood and he searched for its prey not because it's bad, but because it is also needed in this experience. And just clicked the stars.
And so you can look at any situation.
And this is a big topic for reflection, awareness, the path to enlightenment and so on.
However, we live in the real world. Enlightenment - the enlightenment and the excessive desire to justify and to explain the unexplained forms of abuse and violence, sorry, can make a society at a particular hole. The HOLE in which any criminal, a liar, a rapist, a fraudster or a paedophile will be able to justify their actions by saying that once he has committed a crime against the victim - so the victim deserved it and she wanted that experience. Imagine how it will look in the world, the Holocaust will seem like a walk in the Park, and all the maniacs a free hand to implement their darkest intentions and we have done nothing, NOTHING to do with it, because we're sure we've earned it. Wake up, and ooshita that this was a slippery slope many of us are already going.
Therefore, from the point of view of real life, it's better not to delve into philosophical verbiage, and call a spade a spade: violence is violence, fraud is fraud and so on.
And Yes, we live in a not very fair physical world. And maybe this is our chance is first and foremost humane to others, showing compassion, instead of victimblaming, and to grow internally, knowing that there are things that we, too, can happen to face, even if it seems that we don't deserve, and not be afraid of it.
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Elena Nagaeva
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