Politeness and honesty, two qualities largely opposing each other in a person's character, two ways to interact with other people, two tools of conflict resolution.
Showing courtesy we do a kind of concession, covering their aggression, determination and initiative, offering a different way to Express themselves. Say another "Yes", moving away into the shadows. Abandon their demands and interests on time, forget about yourself, are cunning, insincerity, bow to authority.
Civility is socially endorse the quality, because it tames the aggressiveness of the members of a social group, making them obedient and disciplined subordinate to the same rules and therefore predictable and understandable.
Requirements of courtesy in the conversation of two or more persons assume serial Express their opinions to each, without fear that you will interrupt, interrupted, cut off in mid-sentence and will not speak. Looks like a violation of the rules of courtesy in the conduct of discussions can be seen to include any political talk show on national TV as an invited Ukrainian opponents are not allowed to speak to anyone but themselves, "sings in his tune" and are extremely aggressive, trying to interrupt, shout down everyone who disagree with their opinion.
Courtesy - compliance with the forms and rules of human coexistence. Compliance with them allows you to feel confident and relaxed. So how is agent Dale Cooper from the TV series "twin Peaks", he is always extremely polite and helpful, gallant with the ladies and attentive interlocutor. Therefore, the surrounding react to him friendly.
There are certain rules that should be followed. Cooper is easily focused in these rules, he in many ways is the personification of these rules is the strict adherence to the rules of the meetings, and strict office dress code, life schedule, gallantry, good manners. He always napolneny and styled hair, clean shoes and ironed suit. The order of appearance reflects the clarity and consistency in the reasoning, the order of the internal, in the head.
it Should be noted that excessive expression of politeness can take the traits of sycophancy, hypocrisy, inability to refuse, to say no, the desire always to be nice. Good measure from the negative effects of sverhnaglost is honesty and straightforwardness are the open expression of their views, defend their interests and beliefs, despite the possible confrontation of the environment.
Dale Cooper is surprisingly easy combines politeness and courtesy with such integrity and honesty. He knows how to ask the witnesses and suspects direct and uncomfortable questions, without preamble articulates a bold generalization, trusting himself, his experience, knowledge and intuition. Such honesty, truthfulness and integrity is largely determined by the fanatical pursuit of truth, a characteristic of his personality and the quality characteristic of his profession FBI agent, investigating a complex and convoluted case.
Honesty is also socially acceptable quality that people like, they react friendly. Active defending his opinions, openness and frankness, truthfulness and honesty, the habit does not have to hide and not to hide features, inspires confidence in the response.
Cooper easily come into conflict defending their beliefs and interests, not make a special "discount" on authority, argues with the boss. He is able to openly fight for their needs, be yourself and assert yourself.
Dale literally enforce compliance with the rules of respect and decency of their colleague, agent albert. Thus, exhibits honesty and candor in relation to the observance of rules of politeness and hospitality.
Be polite, observe the rules of propriety in conversation, become a gallant with the ladies, and you call the friendly, warm attitude in return. Become honest and forthright, right to defend their interests, regardless of the reaction such openness and truthfulness also like the people, causing the friendliness, openness and trust in the response.
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