“the Eternal, the patient” – it's neurotic, which is life from something is treated, is in search of new diseases, considers himself unhappy, and he feels confused and maladjusted in society, often is out of work or looking for a good job, the best bosses and staff.
Now that neurosis is considered an outdated diagnosis, while neurofisiologia personalities not getting smaller. Modern people because of the experienced stressful events (difficult, extreme, extraordinary) often with panic attacks. In search of treatment for such people appeal to cardiologists, neurologists, physicians and psychiatrists, waiting to “magic” pills for the effective cessation of psychological suffering that people in a state of psychological trauma takes a physical suffering.
Neurotic condition – is an anxiety disorder arising as a panic attack due to:
a) prolonged mental overstrain personality and/or
b) short, but very strong in intensity stress.
Case study No. 1. Husband cheated wife, and she was already a second marriage with the same problem. She has forgiven her second husband one, two, three… “What to do? Two children, a husband – the only breadwinner”. And then on the him the machine cut off the fingers on one hand, and the family was left with no prospects to earn them a good livelihood. The woman involved a panic attack and running from office to office of the doctor and the prescribed treatment did not lead to improvement in physical condition.
Case study No. 2. the Husband in a fit of unreasoning jealousy, has taken his wife to the forest, handcuffed to the steering wheel of the car and promised to burn the wife with the car, if she not admits to him cheating him… And experienced woman situation also served as a mechanism for panic attacks.
In both cases had the same symptoms: pain in the heart and in intercostal space, complaints ‘can't breathe, scared to exhale”, fear that the heart will stop, the fog, difficulty falling asleep, bad dreams (nightmares), terrible thoughts climb in a head, tearfulness, reluctance to communicate, and others.
the Disease is arisen due to suffering psychological trauma, has a psychosomatic origin (i.e. it is not acquired genetically). This means that when the psyche gets sick, then gets sick of any authority or body (“catfish”). Often, psychosomatic illness is the result of the avoidance of dealing with psychological problems, denial of human responsibility for change in a difficult situation and/or acceptance of life's risks.
So, in the first example the woman is not willing (or able) to correct the relationship, to resolve the sex, have a serious talk about the relationship to her husband and his own feelings. She outlines the prospects for their further life in such a situation, constantly crying, being depressed, nothing from her husband does not require, not waiting for changes, not the voice of any decisions and not away from him.
In the second case, the woman continues to live with the rapist-husband, at the risk of being disabled, as it periodically hits her when he drinks. Psychosomatics involved and my son, who began to have problems with enuresis (urinary incontinence) and encopresis (fecal incontinence). But the woman says she loves her husband and that he loves her!.. That is, this woman is not aware of the causes of their problems, sees the solutions are not ready to take responsibility for changing the situation. She doesn't even think about the fact that her husband – a criminal who commits a criminal offense.
Both women are treated by neurologists and cardiologists, but there is no improvement. Why?
To improve relations changes as needed, and clients not ready for them. It is necessary to do something, to take, to not be passive and not to put up with the situation.
I would like to note that successfully cope with difficult situations someone who has hardiness. Hardiness – resilience, enabling the person to cope with life's problems. This way of living built over the years is due to parental regulations and “sand” based on your own lifestyle.
Terms of resilience are:
- zest for life (inclusion);
- Self-monitoring
- Responsibility (the ability to understand and accept life's risks; understand that the decision to withdraw from the zone of pseudocompact is in your own hands).
Consider a different position in life neurotic and psychologically healthy person with hardiness.
‘Eternal patient»
(panic neurotic)
way
(with hardiness)
Dependent on psychotropic drugs for relieving anxiety and anxiety.
Takes over the responsibility for the rejection of «pain” pills, and decided to withdraw from the zone of relative comfort, overcoming the blows of fate.
Experiencing endless suffering, afraid to show anger; suppress anger, guilt and shame; has a lot of outstanding grievances and difficulties in relations with others.
Experiencing positive emotions, has vivid experiences, which rejoices; “infect” a positive and optimistic the other.
afraid to deal with strong emotions and with their feelings. Have emotions of low intensity.
Experiencing a variety of emotions of different intensity. Know how to enjoy life.
does Not accept the risk of change.
Taking life's risks.
has No interest in life, often think about illness or about death. To accuse others of lack "taste life".
Has expressed interest in life, understands her taste. Grateful for life and having fun.
is not interested in Anything; no Hobbies; nothing can. Is in situations of boredom.
Has many interests and different Hobbies, and the list continues to grow regardless of age.
is Not able to meet their needs. Not being able to help others, including family members and children.
he Knows how to meet their needs and helps others to do likewise.
Claims are inadequate (for example, wants to work for money, but has no education or qualifications, does not develop ability).
Have adequate claims (knows his abilities, he sees the prospects of their development and application).
I do Not want to do anything to change life.
Improves the quality of life, and strives to teach it to others.
Anxiety, depression, palpitations and other symptoms are significant “figure” and “background” for them are unsustainable situation (worst job, a failed marriage, adultery, betrayal, etc.).
“Figure” is an interesting and colorful life, and minor symptoms of the disease and found negative life situation, go to “background”. It is widely recognized that ‘life – not a field”.
Request a neurotic psychologist: “Do anything to me, I'm in agony!”.
Request to the psychologist resilient person: "Teach me the most effectively cope with life's difficulties, to live in harmony with himself and with the world…”.
so, the neurotic does not want to take their feelings, to realize the source of their problems and to change something in your life. He fears a situation of choice, because every choice is associated with the risk of loss of the previous “zone conditional comfort”.
Hardiness rather to help the individual to be healthy: to realize their feelings and to experience them in the circumstances, to see problems, to seek their sources in yourself, not in others; to seek psychosocial help and support, to realize their dreams and desires, despite the difficulties and obstacles that sometimes are our beliefs and install.
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