Your system of the world set to it as "right", "must" and "must".
You know how they (mom/dad, husband, children, boss, friend...) and that they all need you to do. But don't know what matters to you most! Or not afford this!
And you have long tired of that life. Tired of all to serve and should be. You want different, but you don't know how?
How to escape from this vicious circle? take a deep breath? Get a taste of the joy of life again?
I Want to share to you the story of one of my client.
Kate (not his real name) came to me in a state of tiredness, bordering on depressed when do not want to. She talked about what she has inside things that she would like to implement, but for some reason there's no time and effort. What in life have accomplished so much. And it would be possible to live, but to rejoice, and there is no mood, no strength. Apparent reason for this sentiment – no, but it is bad.
it turned Out that she was an important figure. Many important points are tied to her and she is "working" virtually around the clock. Even when she's not in the office call her, she resolves. Rest went a long time ago, because all it is "impossible to leave".
And it is essential for parents. They too, she always call if you need anything, or something happened. And she had support.
on the one hand, she likes that role to be needed. But when we began to work on it, then it turned out that for her "to be needed", significant means to be manifested. It means to LIVE.
She has discovered that her little girl inside completely abandoned yourself to be needed and useful to others. To be loved. To do this, always had to be for other best!
But such a life was not Katie herself. There are those who need it and their interests. Her interests do not interest anyone. The most powerful discovery for her was that even she herself is not interested. After all, all her attention given to another! And her little girl is tired of control over life, from constant contribution to others. And that's where this debilitating fatigue!
And even her inner little girl really wanted to show. Breathe, realize their dreams, to travel, to get rid of such a large burden of responsibility for everyone around.
the Return to yourself was difficult. It was important to learn to value their personal interests, to separate from mom and dad and their problems that it solved. And for mom and dad at some point she was a bad daughter, "which as a substitute." At work I had to build a new border, to learn to defend their interests, to go on vacation and pulled in the evenings.
But it gave the free time that she began to realize its desires, to realize what you don't have time.
She met a man and Dating him, learned in this relationship again not to forget about yourself. That was good, harmonious, balanced.
Life began to play with new colors, and Kate learned to listen to myself, to follow him and to LIVE now my life.
I think this can go on indefinitely, knowing yourself, building a harmonious relationships with others, realizing their dreams and always enjoying life!
And you live for yourself or for someone? When was the last time you fulfilled YOUR dreams?
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