The parent installation formed the only children in the family or is it for younger children. In this setting it is clearly visible that the parent brings up the power somewhere even coercive ways, but also competes with your child only sees their need, in some moments even suppress the child may also not realize it. So, the only children in the family, are in a more unenviable position than younger children, because for them, parents can apply a parental than inhibit separation in the future.
here are some examples of phrases that are often heard in the education of children with this setup:
1. “Not in a hurry to grow up”
2. “when I was your age still played with dolls»
3. “You're too young to ...”.
4. “you think You're too old”.
5. “Childhood – the happiest time of life”.
6. “You're too young to paint" and other phrases.
Perhaps for some reason, the parent in a timely manner could not give those feelings, which could be given to a child and is now playing for time to try to recast their matured child. Or simply enjoy the teaching moment and he wants this moment was for as long as possible.
as there could be fear for what will happen when the baby is still growing and will reach the age that the parent is so afraid. Here I asked the parent What is he so afraid of and why he doesn't want the timely onset of this period with your child, perhaps a parent had suffered a negative experience at this age and just taking it at my baby, trying to hide and escape with the child away from the situation again, than destroy the needs of their child.
Competition here is the place to be in the key of parent awareness of their qualities, which he had already consciously sees in the child, as the loss of time and unwillingness to deal with it.
In the home this setting is expressed in phrases like: “mom'll never leave you”, meanwhile, the child hears: “I have no right to be so independent, to live without maternal support”.
Adults with the installation of “no grow” I think that they will never grow. Perceive care in your own independent life as a betrayal of his mother(father), and experience in front of them the guilt for the desire to create and live in his family. Often these people cannot create a family or create it and continue to live with their parents. Giving a choice in favor of “to be a child”, not “be a parent to your children”. The reckoning will come inevitably in the form of pointless mutual recriminations. Therefore, adult has the right to ask anyone's permission on its own growing up.
Therefore, the parent takes life and everything in it could be in a relationship with another partner, living your life and the life of your child. At the moment when the child gives his life to his parent and it is a SACRIFICE to parent your own child.
To resolve the issue with this installation, you need to overcome the barrier of separation and to go out with the right to live their own lives, and the responsibility to create it!
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