a person's Life can be divided into 4 stages that sequentially follow each other. We can say that it is 4 different reality in which the person remains throughout life as a result of its growth. For without development, the person usually gets stuck on one stage, which determines the quality of the world and attitude to life. br>
Today let's talk about what kind of stage such as determine at what stage you are and what to do to move to the next level.
1st stage - Adaptation (the demon world)
At this stage you will get to know and adapt to the world. Many therapists call this stage the demon world. Here there is a constant struggle for survival. Man lives in a state of fear. For him there is only black and white perception of the world. br>
Many people at this stage do not recognize social norms and are guided only by their selfishness. The behavior of such people is governed by emotions and desires. They are content with little and live from the position of the economy. The main task - to survive, to feed themselves, to ensure safety. br>
normal, this stage ends at the age of 17. But 70% of the population stay in this stage until the end of life, for it is not committed to its development. They have a huge number of adaptive problems that must be solved to move on to the next stage. This should take a person who wants to go to the next level - solving problems with the adaptation.
stage 2 - Socialization (the human world)
the Main slogan of the people on this stage: "you me - I you." Here one learns to own his speech, realizing his verbal. In the world there are agreements and commitments. Everything is predictable and orderly, in terms of methods and goals. br>
On socialization usually takes from 12 to 24 years. The main component of stage expression. The main motivation is the money and need for achievement. Behavior is governed by needs and motives. Task socialization - goals. At this stage happiness is a good "piece of cake" in the form of benefits and a stable salary. br>
in order to be fully socialized person needs to have the welfare of the 6 spheres of life:
Excellent health (psychological and somatic);
Human relations with vzaimootnoshenii people on the principle of win - win." And benevolence, conscientiousness, emotional stability, sincerity, honesty, openness to experience;
a Good loving relationship with husband/wife;
to Meet both sex;
love the work/business;
Suiting the material well-being. br>
However, even this is not enough. For real life that many dream, begins only with the advent of the next stage. When it comes to the realization that the material is not a goal but a means to a happy life - it's the first sign of transition to assistentialization. br>
stage-3 - Asistencialista (world of heroes)
At this stage turn on your individuality. You are wasting energy and strength in vain, cease to survive and begin to live joyfully, happily, passionately and intelligently. br>
the Fun comes not from the consumption of material and subjective perception. The objective world by changing subjective changes. Here there is no anxiety and social fears. Survival gives way to an authentic life. People at this stage chooses how to react to a situation. Automatic emotional responses do not exist. br>
For a human being assistentialization important-fulfillment. Behavior is regulated by values and ethics. People at this stage live as you want without disturbing others-and get real pleasure from life. The main task at this stage is to learn how to live for life. br>
stage 4 - Transpersonality (world surfers of the universe)
This stage is very difficult to describe in words. You realize that life in this body is finite. Begin to understand instinctively that there are an infinite soul, and life on Earth is a special case of infinite existence. And in order for the next incarnation was good - need to prepare for it.
the Style of life at this level - the contemplation of the universe. Strategy of material well-being - minimization efforts. Behavior is motivated by the uniqueness, abilities and creativity, and the behavior is governed by the meaning of life and podsmysly. The task of the stage – to realize that you are immortal and not afraid of death. Prepare for something bigger! br>
important! How to go to the next level? br>
the first step is to solve the adaptive problems associated with guilt, fears, resentment, apathy and laziness. In the second stage to achieve prosperity in the 6 areas of life: Health, Sex, Money, Love, Relationships, Work. On the third to learn how to live for life. On the fourth to realize the infinity of your life and prepare for transpersonally. br>
Let's grow together! br>
Thanks to this article, I hope you have learned the direction in which to move. If you are on a stage adaptation/socialization, then we invite you to participate in the course 7 Spaces | Fire psychologist!. Part of it is based on this practical theory and allows to improve 7 areas of life that contribute to the successful socialization. br>
But the most important thing! 7 Spaces enables and teaches psychological techniques that will help in solving adaptation problems and goals in socialization! br>
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All the best! With love, Nikita Ilyin
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