I think the question "can we influence others?" usually does not even occur - by default, we are constantly trying to do it.:) That is, try to influence.
Even often without realizing it.
We gain "influence" on children, spouses, friends, acquaintances...) In dealing with them, we often try to convince them how we're right and what concerned us is what we expect from them. And hope (sometimes consciously, sometimes subconsciously) that they will fit into our expectations. That is, try them... a little change))
it is Clear that many of us have their point of view, their opinion, their view about how as effectively as well as it should... and so on.
naturally.
And knowing how to (correctly without the quotes, and inner conviction), we, for the most part, and outcome of this in your own behavior.
including communicating with other people.
of Course, we do not always think about it and just live.
sometimes joking, there are two opinions - my and wrong.:)
And when we "influence" to relatives, friends and acquaintances, we - to some extent - they really do have an impact: communicating with each other, and we exchange opinions and emotions.
And somehow react to each other.
And there is some kind of have something else to do and the other person. And as (our and his) to some extent changing. That is, it turns out that we mutually influence each other.
Well, sometimes more, sometimes less, sometimes almost imperceptibly. But with lizards.
the only Question is, what affect we are usually (or often, at least) want in the sense that a different person took our position and did and thought as we want!
That is, "influence" for us is often equal to "convince" to win)) or by Well known joke - to catch up, to cause good and cause good))
At the same time we kind of put ourselves in the position of someone who knows and understands more.
And when someone does to us - and we notice it - it can cause us irritation. For example.
Or any other feelings. Not always pleasant. In General, it happens that you want to be protected from this imposed "influence" - the invasion.
And now the question - why should we affect another person?
he began to do something that we want? Well, for some, perhaps the most good our intentions?
the question now is not about manipulation, well, there is a known and not the, shall we say, socially acceptable way to influence another person to force him to do something he would he voluntarily do not.
Be manipulated (assuming that we tracked) is usually very unpleasant, to say the least. Even say disgusting.
I'm under the "influence" now mean something else.
As we can, for example, to cooperate with another person?
How can we coerce it to go in the direction that we are interested in?
And where we want to, and he was, too?
Here's how we can affect another person, so he went there?
Well, what can be answer??
But we can interest him!
for Example, John wants his wife Lena, who knows the Chinese language, would go with him on a professional exhibition for Chinese medicine was for him an interpreter,
len the medicine, for example, uninteresting and there it would be boring and therefore she would've had to force myself to comply with the request of her husband - well, without any enthusiasm. And I doubt Lena is not enough)
Therefore, Basil, well knowing Lena, she was offered the idea together with Basil actively to establish contacts with Chinese representatives, after a while to go to Hong Kong.
Lena enthusiastically took Basil to help!:)
of Course, in order to influence the other person's behavior in a desirable way, we need to understand the range of interests the other person.
And to do that we need to be interested in that person.
to navigate that can attract him and lead in an attractive direction for us (because this is what we want to influence?:) )
in General, mutual cooperation, United by a common idea of people is often very fruitful.
And introduces a lot of unusual and interesting life!
Therefore it is necessary not to be lazy and these ideas to think and discuss!!:)
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