the word "life" a lot of definitions for every taste and occasion, here are some examples:
— self-sustaining chemical system capable of Darwinian evolution (NASA)
is some sort of cosmic force, the "vital impulse", which essentially consists in the continuous reproduction of itself, and the creation of various new forms (Henri Bergson)
is a theatre and people are actors in it (George Bernard Shaw).
I want to offer another definition, does not claim to authorship: life is an endless series of elections.
so, I guess it is difficult to argue with the fact that our life is full of elections, what to wear, what to eat, where to go, when to sleep, what to see, what to read — it's the little things, but collectively they reflect us, our lifestyle, our worldview. But the solution is more serious: with whom to live, who to love, where to study, where to work... All the choices — large and small — with common features, here are some of them:
1. You choose for yourself or listen to the opinions of others
2. You know what you want and get a result, or "adrift", are the result of vaguely
3. You feel when the desire is true — you act when you are motivated enough, you'll quit or will make anyhow.
to make their Own choices teaches us to rely on our own strength, and not, for example, on luck and fate.
In fact, we can teach our children to make choices! First and foremost, it is advisable to get rid of fear allow the CHILD to MAKE a CHOICE. Yes, sometimes we know better, Yes, we have the experience, we see the consequences of the decision, BUT! We can start small (to GIVE to SELECT STUFF). allow the Kids to choose a side dish, ask what book they want to listen to, what to play, to eat before the walk or after. Older children can decide what they will visit circle what items will be purchased in the store, etc.
How else can we teach children to make choices? Teach your child to agree to keep your word, be consistent.
EXAMPLE (the child chooses a circle, but there are doubts that he will retain interest for a long time): invite the child's condition, teach him to negotiate and follow the arrangements (this will also require a sequence and you). Alternatively, you can suggest the following: if classes are to be paid, you need to depart no less than a month — and the money will not be wasted, there will be some skill, knowledge and, thus, the child will understand that you can try, bringing the matter to a logical conclusion (without extremes). That is, WHEN YOU invite the CHILD to NEGOTIATE, YOU are TEACHING HIM to be responsible FOR DECISIONS.
the older the child the greater the options.
adolescence is particularly important to be able to make a choice, as this period is characterized by specific peculiarities of the age. At this time it is difficult to think about the future, since man, owing to certain processes in the body, on the contrary, immersed in the "here and now": issues of appearance, relations with others, love, etc because at this age you need to decide on a professional path!
How else can we teach children to make choices? Remember yourself at that age in which your child is or read the relevant literature. What is this age specific? What is the key?
EXAMPLE (it's time to decide what to do after school): try to remember themselves in adolescence or someone from the environment, or read an article on the specifics of adolescence, if you have passed this test. It is clear that the choice of the educational institution the responsible thing, but it is advisable not to push and not to decide for the children, because people tend to listen to advice, to blame for possible errors that this advice is given.
during this period it is advisable to create a peaceful atmosphere of cooperation. To act to start early. Together to visit various educational institutions, study sites, the relevance of the chosen profession in the labour market, to predict the fate of the profession in the future, and more (it is advisable to consult with a professional in career guidance). That is, PROVIDING CHILD SUPPORT, SHOWING THEIR SOFT, QUIET INTEREST AND RESPECT FOR CHILD's CHOICES, WE DO MORE THAN IF you'D MADE the CHOICE FOR HIM. ALSO, it is ADVISABLE to REMEMBER THAT the nature of DECISION MAKING is INFLUENCED by MANY FACTORS — ONE OF THEM AGE.
find out What the children making the choice: we are responsible for the choice, we CAN choose, we DECIDE what will be our life.
How else can we teach children to make choices? We can support them to articulate what is happening.
EXAMPLE (choose a toy in the store): "Yes, I see that it is difficult to choose. Why do you think? You like the elephant and the bear? What color are they? Orange and red? And what you like best What are the sounds, remember? Which do you like better? That is PAYING ATTENTION TO the DETAILS, WE TEACH HIM to MAKE a CHOICE.
How else can we teach children to make choices? Teach a child to predict.
EXAMPLE (when choosing, think about the consequences): Sometimes, trying to figure out what will happen, it is easier for us to choose. Here again, the example with the kids, I guess you will not be difficult to imagine a different example for the older guys. So, you REALLY want to go for a walk. But we see what's coming cloud! In response to Malyshevskoe what we can arrange about the following conversation: "Want to walk? You know, it's nice to get some fresh air! But have you seen this cloud? Seems like soon will rain! Swing gets wet, the slide gets wet — how are you going to play? Children hide in their homes — they do not want to get wet! You know why? They know that if it gets wet, it can get cold and can't go in the garden/for a walk etc. That is, WHEN WE LEARN of a BABY BY REASONING to PREDICT the CONSEQUENCES of CHOICES, WE HELP them to MAKE CHOICES EFFECTIVELY!
RESPONSIBILITY, INDEPENDENCE and MATURITY is the inseparable sisters.
Maturity appears later than the other sisters, but she's the oldest.
Maturity is a consequence, a result of the hard work, many decisions independently of the decisions for which man is responsible.
I Wish you happiness!
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