the child psychotherapy usually brings a parent, he accompanies him on visits, takes care of the financial part of therapy for these markers, it becomes clear that the parent is a very important element of psychotherapy of the child.
When a parent turns to a psychologist, he has his own request and his vision of the situation, often there are vision result which we should reach the psychologist in working with the child. Therefore, to build a relationship of trust you have with the child and parent equally.
the First stage of collecting information usually takes place on the phone, already at this stage, you can get some idea of what the parent expects from working with a psychologist. Followed by first meeting with the parents separately from the child. The goal of that meeting to listen to concerns of parent, to understand what he sees the problem of the situation. Followed by meeting with the child, this is a very important stage of building a psychotherapeutic relationship. The contract for the work is discussed with the parent and with the child if he has sufficient adult.
At the stage of interaction and contact, it is not necessary to forget and about the parents. Therefore, I recommend building sessions so that after each meeting with the child, the parent has received any feedback or recommendations, it is sufficient to give this 10-15 minutes.
young children are not always willing to part with a parent, so sometimes in early work with the child the parent can attend the sessions after a period of adaptation and building relationships therapist-child this will not be necessary.
Some parents may even insist on your presence at the sessions, but in such cases we need to show all his professionalism and tact to convey to anxious or overbearing parent that his presence is impossible.
the Child needs to feel completely safe, to trust the therapist to know that the psychologist adheres to the principle of confidentiality that created the space the child will not be subjected to criticism, evaluation, or educational measures. Parent and child well before resorting to a psychologist has developed its own parent-child relationships, which may qualitatively influence the course of therapy, therefore, the presence of a parent at the sessions is not desirable. Their differences and the wrongs of the past will influence their behavior, words and thoughts that are born in the process of therapy.
the Psychologist has a relationship and maintaining contact with the parents, he gives advice, even homework, shares her understanding of the challenges helps parents to take a fresh look at the situation and find new solutions. The psychologist discusses with the parents the content of the meeting, disclose the secrets of the child. Not always a parent ready to adopt these rules immediately, leaving the walls of the Cabinet, it can exert pressure on the child, trying to learn the content of the conversation. It is also one of the aspects typical for the psychotherapy of children, so the rule of confidentiality and the right of the child to their space being given enough time to work with parents.
it is Very important to maintain a balance in defending the rights of the child and maintaining trust relationships with parents, none of the parties should not feel that trust violated, that do not act in my best interests. After all, the trust becomes a Foundation on which to line up the therapeutic relationship the psychologist with parents and children.
Parent is not in the therapeutic space together with the child, but he is with him all the rest of the time. That is outside the psychologist's office the parent must support the therapeutic process is started by a psychologist. The parent creates space in the daily life of the child for possible changes, it can track the changes that the psychologist simply can't observe, can give the child feedback about these changes. The parent is included in this way in the therapeutic process of the child can notice your own changes.
Bringing the child to therapy, not every parent realizes that he too will have to change along with the child, but only the cooperation and interaction of the parent with the psychologist can yield sustainable changes that will not come to naught after the end of psychotherapy.
In the process of therapy the child may be that further progress is impossible without psychotherapy parents. In my experience it's not uncommon for therapy parents and child takes place in parallel. Joint psychotherapy family members helps to achieve significant results and to consolidate the new rules, ways of interacting, which is qualitatively changing relations throughout the family system. Therefore, the main task of the psychologist in the psychotherapy of children, make the parent his assistant and together work towards the welfare of the child and the family as a whole.
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