Envy is often what will happen is a fuel for change. Saw - wanted - made (similar or better). Many tales that originated in this feeling.
However it is somewhat blameworthy in the community, so not everyone will say Yes it all started with envy. But in fact the case. And it's good - to be able to see the realisation of someone's dream and change the lives of their own.
it is Bad when jealousy destroys, deprives the rest. Usually in such situations, immersed in envy of the people in my head plans for revenge or wants to fail have succeeded neighbor/relative/friend. Quietly but fiercely hates.
They did not
Sometimes I envy devalues the achievements of someone who obviously has achieved something or received, created, or built, nurtured or bought. Inside, everything is also hated, but in addition also voiced something like this: Yes, what can I do...just got lucky...Yes, there she brought nothing....
What to do with envy and where its roots must be addressed individually to any, stop to envy, or to learn "make similar". Envy, so I want the same and can do.
process
And now I want to suggest one exercise that can be done independently or with a psychologist. Probably a psychologist would be easier, as it will help to take in the experience and will not allow to cling to the old devalues the installation.
so one needs to resort to inversion. It was originally a linguistic term for the turning, for example words in the text. This stylistic trick.
it is Clear that in psychology "flip" should role. For example, myself envious of nestling on the couch, come home at exactly 17.00, swap with someone who earns a lot, but closer to home comes at 24.00 runs seven days a week.
And then - a flight of fancy. The challenge to immerse themselves in the successful world, but seeing the experiences, difficulties, cons of the situation of that person.
eventually come to a holistic vision of what is happening, envy will be reduced. And the question arises - and it is I want? Often the answer varies from a definite "Yes", which proclaimed to dive into the role.
Rewind
Sometimes complexity is there when you persistently do not see any disadvantages. And maybe now they're gone, but then go the way the man initially - there is no easy success, no defeats, no losses, losses. It may have been left behind, but it was. Are you ready to go that way?
by the Way, this exercise is good and just in the preventive purposes - to be less judgmental of other people. A dip in their lives, in their history, you are unlikely to save the former judgment.
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