Often in the process of group therapy the following occurs: the person steps into the circle, there is a very emotional, heavy session with the trainer and the participant begins to cry.
And the group is “rescue”, which immediately find the swipe and give a party.
Good or bad, let's deal.
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If you are a psychologist or psychotherapist, you have often a client cries at the session?
What do you do in such cases?
In psychotherapy we meet on a daily basis that can be very bad, and he feels disassembled.
It can be sad, angry, offended, feel guilty.
He gets access to his feelings and begins to live them and thus begins to develop, it appears the source of development.
All those moments that we developed was related to previous frustration. This is the state when needs cannot be met. And the man finds himself in unpleasant feelings – can be upset and to cry.
What are the responses you have in this situation?
do you have a set of available reactions to this situation?
If not, then you immediately want to get a handkerchief, a napkin, and to reassure the client, and it is possible to advise something or to get his attention. You've got to be very careful.
You already want to save him because they can not withstand the feelings of the client.
the Words “don't cry, it's okay” - minimize process client and deprive him of the development.
There is such a thing “containerevent» - the inner ability to withstand strong emotions - their own and others.
And if the container of the psychologist is small in capacity, it is not able in itself to accommodate and process the emotions of the client, but rather your emotional response to them.
And handing a napkin to a customer, you can slow down its process of experiences that often make the ‘rescue” in group work.
the Intensity of emotion is too large, the container of the observer is overwhelmed, and he finds a way to cope with his condition in this way.
Customer wipes tears, pauses and folds the whole process.
It all the same what to drag the pain and stop halfway.
In fact, it is the realization of their selfish interests, not to feel bad.
But it is important not to go to extremes.
Strategically, the desire to make the world a better place – just fine, but this strategy does not need every minute to determine your tactics.
It is a disease of many beginning psychologists, therapists.
What to do?
learn to notice your reaction, you slip, when the client is in its process.
to Develop and expand the container it is in personal therapy.
to learn how to slow down, to feel and to be able to delay their movement.
If you managed to detect his feeling and motive of pulling napkins, then you've got a choice – place it in contact or leaving the container.
In any case, it is important to tell the client that you are with him and ready for any its manifestation, and he has every right to do, and he might have to rely on you.
This is a very valid message to the client.
Then he feels your steady presence and 100 % attention.
And his senses are not impaired, and accepted.
these are not simple swipe and thoughts about them.
Colleagues, what do you think about this?
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