This is an excerpt of my correspondence (Alexander) little girl (A), which reveals a clever mechanism of projective identification after she questioned my moral "fitness"
A: I circle choose for themselves, it is important for me to have a number of those who do not change their loved ones, even the thoughts
Alexander: what to communicate to check such intimate things?)
A: it's important to me what people in the family, in the environment, in the relationship...better to feel the interlocutor, and to know whether to let it into your world or leave there, behind the fence)
Alexander: imagine that I say the same thing about the sexy side of..say, I want to know what you sex to know how you can let into your world, trust you, etc. I think it's the same..only women seem to complain about the family as a biological problem, and men - you know that. also on a biological problem concerned.
A: Yes, you know
Alexander: so I say, for friendship in this regard, in General, people should be perceived as asexual, ideally..and interest in my intimate sphere lies beyond the framework
A: it's just you with nothing linked) and I'm still doing the very same thing (in my understanding) link later)
A: okay.
A: passed
Alexander: well, obviously, what is the consequence of some crucial events, often traumatic..just for this example I wanted to show that it is not so very different from us those whom we hate
A: of course, everyone has their flaws, and that's why everyone picks (even just for chatting) man for themselves, in their ideas and preferences
Alexander: I don't think it should be considered a drawback though..if the word is not seen as a rating and as an expression of thirst for something, then Yes..this thirst and makes us perceive the world tunnel.
Thus, deficiency may be a manifestation of unsaturation, inner emptiness when lacking something important, hence its unique features, prevent us, first of all, to enjoy all the colors of this world. We see only what is dictated to us our inadequacy, deficiency.. needless to say about how difficult it is in this state, to see others and help them develop
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