Autumn rainy night and she was returning home from work, taking a shower and throwing to the plate all that was left in the fridge after the weekend, sat down to the TV. Longing. The child's grandmother, the former doesn't bother me and I want ... to not be alone. In the telly chanting today's news, next to a plate of remnants of food, "blacknull" phone, the hand automatically reached out..someone liked the photo, the second, koment.. Oh, and you need krasafchik...it all started. " ..the Former a fair amount of infection on the farm doing nothing but saloons in mind and clothes. She - horror "on the wings of night, and He "warm and fuzzy" accidentally caught in the net." this place "the signing of the terms of the transaction". And she decided that with her everything will be different, that's the one he'll be happy, and she like a stone wall. After all, he's so cool, and it is ex - bitch, what she did to him. I will change it!!!!!
the Contract was signed! You "bought a good quality product and if it is "fu", this means you incorrectly operated)". This is a common mistake people (men and women 50/50) that he is really good and with me it will be different. There are cases that it happens, but in most cases we are wrong, that "buy new car", and "auto" already have the actual mileage and it does not improve its quality. The mistake is that we don't want to admit that there are real errors, rules, disadvantages, we think that there is no problem in THIS man, that all the creatures of the former. When you start chatting with someone who was in a relationship, marriage - you have to give the father that "it is with history, he's got serious mileage," not dismissing these important conditions and have no illusions that you will make him happy, because you're better than the former.
In my experience, a whole layer of customers, who see only what they want to see, not what really is, in each of the next partner.
1)don't idealize your new partner, he was already not ideal for your ex;
2)don't idealize yourself, you have not been perfect for your ex;
3)draw conclusions and weigh the odds.
Disappointment comes only when we are building castles in the air: to me it is more brave, smart, kind, successful - why it must become so, if he's not - so you have to do something...wow.
so...what happens is what should happen and then..unreasonable expectations and disappointment.
Listen to the story from HIM, what he is good, and it is bad, watch this "film" eyes of the former - try it!!! It can be not stunning and not interesting, but true - if this "movie" you liked it anyway - go ahead!
But remember, this is not a new car - take it as a good car with mileage)
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