How to piss off a man? Just start him to prove that he must have something.
what You can even use that word as a bundle of as analogous to the “must”.
"Today must be the rain will come, but you have to go to work, take an umbrella…" All… if it is already “charged”, even this innocuous phrase is enough to cause at least irritation. And if “you should” is really worth the wait – that war of the worlds is provided.
So let's figure out who is fighting
the Boy and the more a man is often perceived as someone who will or already has power and strength. Well still in infancy, her harness and managed to do. So they hammered from childhood, what they need, why should not this word as a red flag is used everywhere in the discipline, taming, education.
“Necessity” for men becomes a kind of way of command and control. This is how the system framework, with which the man is always in struggle (recall the verses of Vysotsky “Hunting for wolves" red flags - these are the shoulds).
And the more the man is in this internal struggle (the farther it is from the state of the Zen and apathy), the higher the probability of women to be in an imaginary Nemesis (beater, set the checkboxes), just by saying the word “need”. For him it is not just the war, but also the betrayal, the denial of free will.
as soon as the man hears "you should love his wife" it denied the right to do it on their own, he'll always be in doubt he loves or he fulfils the law and how he is now to prove the sincerity of his feelings, if he must.
the phrase “man” mean for women
If men “should” it sounds like another sound of the whip, drive a slave, then women in the word an entirely different meaning – please confirm its significance for him.
in women “should”, it is often possible to continue the words “I…” or “because I…”.
“Must do”, I want… so I was pleased that I made in response, etc. as the announcement of the conditions on further cooperation.
Worse, when “because…” has already done a lot of good to you see you saw what I am, and return is not received, so more and more begin to resemble the collector (worse, because more painful see article).
drama is played when people do not match.
the Man in the face of the woman ceases to see ally and she goes to the side of the forces of evil "requires system” and a woman asking for a return (when in doubt that is loved requires something for her to do to assuage your fears and prove his worth for a man) zaparivatsya instead of love, aggression and “I owe you nothing” that for her as depreciation. In this moment -the war for love has begun. And each of his, not knowing the other.
the Phrase “you should” and “I owe you nothing" - it's all just an excuse to relive their personal tragedy “It – betrayed and deprived of the will”, “it – an underrated, all her efforts to empty”. And it will happen again and again, regardless of the partners and the situation, because it is the trigger that the usual strategy to prove something.
(2 strategies, which are described on the example of the “man” and “woman”, can take place and for women and for men)sincerely, phenomenolog, the analyst feminine and masculine thinking - Buyanova Andriana (consultation)
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