You need () ... How often do we build a dialogue with a partner using this sentence?
And get what you want and not get?! Well, or it turns out only the pleasure of something this little. Why??? What's wrong?
Offer pass exercise. Ready? By his listen to their feelings, thoughts.
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Well, there was a desire to do that? What you have a feelings, sensations in the body? br>
Perhaps you are angry? Ashamed? I feel guilty?
I Think the desire has become less and osadochek at least there was some.
of Course of all the above, you don't owe me anything, and in principle no one should. ) This is just an experiment. You want to do, want not.
That's the same in relationships. If your partner(Sha) is not fulfilling its functional tasks in the pair, then(s) he will not do it. Though forehead break or make a tattoo " ()".
(s) He does not, just because it does not want and does not choose to do it!
All other reasons are just excuses and "lyrics"!
You can argue. But it happens that the person really wants to, but to do, not work? It happens.
Then simply you should turn for support to the expert in this matter. And he goes and works with this difficulty, and if it doesn't... Then read the paragraph above. ;)
by the Way is one of the markers wants to see people or just says (pretends) he wants.
still, a healthy relationship is about conscious choice and the responsibility of both partners. (I have a separate note on responsibility and choice). Everyone takes as much responsibility how much you're willing and can take. And then itself disappears, the situation "I am the poor victim, and he is an evil tyrant".
After all, when you do something for yourself, partner, children, etc. because YOU yourself want and choose to do it, it is fun in the first place and you most likely will bring joy to someone doing that.
But if you do everything the same, but from a sense of "I should", and the joy in this will be small. May be pride, "I have done", but the fun and excitement... Hardly.
In General the choice is yours. To continue to manifest "You must(to)/should I(a)", or to understand what your need, make a choice and begin to implement it, getting satisfaction.
what do you think about this?
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