a troubled teenager is the lack of warmth in the relationship between child and for adults. And I don't seek someone to blame. I just want to highlight that we parents often lose the most important, with the desire and the need to earn bread, clothing, studies. We forget that sense of security can only give a human relationship. In those cases where there is interest in the experiences and feelings of the child, in the upbringing of the teenager are no complications.
a Rebel in the house is the lack of contact
In writing this article I was inspired by one of the consultations. The request was: -“How to be, my daughter is growing up, and I don't know what it breathes. Can't say that we have no contact. However, warm relations, unfortunately, no. And so I would like her to establish a close relationship and be her friend" ( published with the permission of the client)
Want to start with the fact that if you have such request, it is already a victory! First and foremost on themselves. Working closely with the children, I face the problem that many parents do not consider it necessary to plunge into the inner world of his younger student. And it is precisely because of this, many children became older people who can not define themselves, don't trust people, don't believe in yourself.
We will save the connection.
I have a simple everyday methods of how to become closer to the child.
Start small, show interest in his life. Enter a rule, before school, when in the morning, say goodbye, wish good day. At the meeting in the evening, ask how his day was.
give yourself a strict rule: speak words of gratitude for all. Especially for such ordinary things: cleaning my room, washed the dishes, did my homework without a reminder. Ordinary thank you incredibly closer to each other, believe me.
Find strength once a week to walk together in the evening, to talk about life, about their problems at work. Tell us about yourself. Believe me, your troubled teen will be happy to share your experiences. And understands you like no other.
And yet brings an incredibly easy journey to your childhood. Take a dip together in the memories of parents, their grandparents, as they were then. Share what you remember. Don't forget to tell you about a funny or not to the situations themselves. Surely you have in the bins of the memory and the moments of your life.
It is from these small things you can pave the path to the soul of the child. It is in these moments, a troubled teenager feels your love. And most importantly, invisibly there is the education of the teenager.
If you are reading an article suddenly thought, this is not about our family, it is unlikely to happen, and will help me offer you the following. Try it! It's so easy, like all brilliant! Start small, and after a few months you will notice changes not only in the relationship with your difficult teenager, but in the progress of his rebellion.
This article of mine, published on the website: https://samologiya.com/trudnyj-podrostok
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