it's Hard to be weak
I used to think that being weak is a weakness. In other words is to show their ugliness.
The ugly weakness I understand laziness, torcoletti, inattention, inappropriateness, stupidity, confusion, stupidity.
And all those qualities that I don't mean to be or to live. That in itself was not accepted.
I worked hard on himself, nurtured their strengths.
And tried to breed "weak" quality, align them to correct. As if they are some kind of crippled.
"we will work together and make change, become different, strong. And then..."
But was trained with the training course by course, and weaknesses, not being accepted, enough with all the cracks: tears in the most inappropriate places, stupidity, forgetfulness, laziness, unwillingness to do something, lack of understanding yourself.
They were discovered and exposed my vulnerability, sensitivity, poignancy, fatigue, impotence, inability.
Until I finally realized that changes come not when I change (which is impossible), and then when I accept myself for who I am.
And I feel that these qualities help me to be a real, live, themselves. And even beautiful.
And customers have brought me their stories about the fact that I don't want to be weak. Want to be strong, always all-knowing, all-powerful, etc.
But is it really?
In man there is nothing superfluous. All the qualities of something is needed.
Weakness, like strength, is important. To relax, to switch, to reboot, to rethink the past, understand where to go next.
the other person saw next to him not a soulless machine, but a living person.
His strength we cultivate for decades. The same - don't accept weakness.
Because to make their "fair quality" so hard.
But no other way.
it is not weakness it is!
It's just different facets of my personality, my individual qualities, features that are very important and necessary that make up my uniqueness.
the truly strong can be the only one who knows how to be weak. He who respectfully accepts what he is.
And we need to learn.
If you respond similar experiences, I invite you on my consultations.
Valentine'kovskaya, psychologist, family counselor, art therapist.
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