I often write about the athletes, their parents. How to understand and help them. This publication has decided to dedicate respected coaches.
Talk to different coaches, from different sports. There are moments that recur and deserve attention. Here I decided to write about some of them. Perhaps my information will help athletes and parents better understand his coach and coach - time to provide first aid.
1. coaches, as a rule, last - athletes who have overcome adversity, cope with pain and fatigue, worked on his willpower to reach the heights. And often it is what they expect from their students. So often - demanding, critical, uncompromising, hard in communicating with their athletes.
According to the coaches, before no one "sentimental", it is necessary - means necessary. And to adjust to what is now the other children, they grow in a different environment under a different burden of information and influence - sometimes not easy.
and in universities in the training of trainers is not enough to pay attention to child, age, organizational psychology, psychology of influence, etc. So often coaches come to anything empirically, by trial and error.
2. At the beginning of his professional path trainers usually are filled with inspiration! They have a lot of ideas and plans, own experience and knowledge!
In many of his pupils they see future Champions and are ready to invest not sparing their time and effort in each of them.
I Know coaches who invest their money, sharing with a successful athlete with some part of their RFP, paying the competition.
And, as a rule, at first, someone from the athletes starts to produce results is even more motivating!
But...sometimes time goes by. And the coach starts to feel the shortage of domestic resources and strength. At the same time this can cause financial difficulties, difficulties in the family or on the background of constant stress, health problems.
And if the athlete in different ways (natural) reasons, lost the results - increasingly have to listen to the claims, and from the management and from parents. And the most painful is the ingratitude of the athlete.
And here comes the PROFESSIONAL (EMOTIONAL) BURNOUT. This "asbestocement". When neither the strength nor the desire.
it is Very important to begin a "reboot", with the first symptoms of burnout, thereby warn many undesirable consequences for myself and for work.
3. Coach "live" performance with every athlete. When the coach watching the performance of his pupil, he feels the same emotions and feelings: anger, fear, confusion, pain, resentment, etc.
the muscles of the body doing the very same thing that makes him the athlete: tense, ready to pounce or strike, etc.
And as if the coach was not trying to be "neutral" - this is hard to achieve. Is the concept of mirror neurons. We feel everything the other feels, especially if it's our child, a pupil, a close person.
So after a hard day of competition the body of the coach soaked in adrenaline, cortisol, lactic acid, etc., what keeps the state of stress, strong physical and emotional fatigue.
And if day performs a few of your athletes, and not once (as, for instance, wrestlers and fighters)?
I can recommend to athletes and their parents?
- be attentive to their coaches, coach - man, with their feelings, fears, but the coach cannot and does not want to show it, I won't tell you;
- be grateful! it motivates and inspires! after the competition to step up and say "THANK you!" just a mandatory ritual;
always remember - only acting in one team: coach-athlete-parent-sometimes a psychologist can come to sure victories! if everyone would pull in their side, but also to hurt - results will not be! but if you don't care about or are not satisfied with the results your child, and you do not try to do something at least do not interfere
WHEN WE are UNITED, WE are INVINCIBLE!
PS And I want to clarify that this article is written about coaches that have not happened to be in this role. It's not about the people who somehow work out their complexes or are unable to get anywhere else