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“All happy families resemble one another, each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way”. L. N. Thick

of Course, every family is unique, and the difficulties encountered by spouses and other family members are very different. Events become significant and affect the lives depending on how we respond to them. Also in family relationships, particularly with his mother-in-law.

When a young woman marries, she has certain expectations and usually acts in accordance with them. But often these expectations and views differ from the views of mother's spouse. If the mother-in-law daughter-in-law initially treats as “rival” as “a certain raider” that came all ready (usrowing son, who often at the time of marriage, received his higher education, got a job, has some property, etc.). So mother in law can develop strong opinions about what daughter-in-law doesn't deserve her son. And because such plants mother will see in the behavior of daughter-in-law more shortcomings than advantages. And the young wife, not knowing anything about it, faced with such behavior in-law, and it is becoming increasingly clear how unfair to her mother-in-law. On this basis, can be a lot of small and large conflicts. Such circumstances lead only to the intensity of the relationship with mother-in-law and her husband.

Therefore, it is advisable to avoid such collisions and to adhere to certain rules conflict-free communication.

so, how to behave with her mother in law what to avoid conflict situations?

  1. mother-in-law Sometimes demands attention. Don't close yourself from communicating with her. call her sometimes, ask her health and condition. Find a General topic for discussion (this may be a regular series, weather, news, etc.). Perhaps in the beginning such conversations will be formal. It's not terrible, the main show mother-in-law that You're interested in communicating with her. If chat is not very good, it give mother-in-law sometimes small gifts, which she regarded as the signs of attention on your part.
  2. revisit the mom and wife for advice. Show her what her expert opinion is important and useful. To teach – this is one of the main functions of mother-in-law, she is already in such age when it is important to share my experience. Accept it with sincere gratitude.
  3. Never judge your mother in law with her husband, no matter how much you didn't want to do it. As said Melnitskaya T. B., ‘the truth – good, but happiness is – better”. Not necessarily very sharp comments about specific events and behavior. Learn to get sharp corners. This skill will be useful not only in the family situation.
  4. If the relationship does not improve, then at some time try less likely to interfere with mother-in-law (of course, if you and your husband are separated).
  5. Be grateful for – after all, she gave birth to such a wonderful man as your husband. Stop to take mother in law as rival, robs you of the husband, and then, perhaps, it will cease to see the competitor in you.

Wish you a happy life and wise decisions!

your psycho, Ekaterina Shabalina



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