the psychologist often come in order for something to change in your life. Why can't people do it yourself? I noticed 5 mistakes that they make along the way.
Not working with the causes of the need for changes.
This woman came to me and said about how he wants to change jobs and in General the sphere of activity. Ask "why not like current job?" Parse, and it turns out that the main reason is the chief villain. br>
did some work on the theme of relationship with him, she was a little postitive in communication and work and I don't really want to change, and the scope of activities to more:)
it is always better to start working with the actual cause of the needs, and then with the rest of everything.
to Deny reality.
It usually sounds like this: "Life is terrible, I can not stand the bog, want everything to be others."
With such thoughts that change will be difficult, because it does not fit. Therefore, it may be more useful first to work on the emotional state and see the good that is already there.
try to become others without self-acceptance.
same as previous item, but in relation to himself. Only here it is impossible to change something without acceptance and love.
you can Not be confident, strong and sociable without taking and worries about their uncertainty, weakness and isolation. It just doesn't work.
Not deal with the fears and internal limitations.
Almost always any changes in fear, even if it changes for the better. Therefore, without consideration fears change either impossible, very, very slow.
First look for something in the external world.
a Very big mistake) We're looking for something in the external world in order to feel a certain way. br>
So the question is "What do I want to feel?" is much more productive than the question "What do I want to achieve?" After you determine what you want to feel, you can think about what external things can cause you have this feeling - not Vice versa.
PS to avoid these errors and achieve easy changes, you can visit the psych team. One of them is to start soon in Moscow: https://vk.com/uborka_psy
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