Dmitry Yushchenko: So I want to say. Talk anything, because then I want to make some of the principles of the exit of toxic relationships.
Sergei Lepekhin.: I would say so we left. Eleven minutes. Let's just because if there are questions, they asked.
Dmitry Yushchenko: Here. Here she writes: “It says all is well and I even I recognize life situations that describe what to do?” Well, honestly, I would say the question asked here about twenty minutes ago, so it I announced three of its rules. Yes. Come on, we then a more extended answer. I think 11 minutes will be a problem. I think I'll go so tight stream.
Sergei Lepekhin.: Come on.
Dmitry Yushchenko: First you like NLP-er, of course I understand that any behavior is positive intent. If a person smokes, he is not because he wants to smoke poison. And because he not know how else to relax, do not know how else to structure their work, not able to meet otherwise. And whatnot.
Sergei Lepekhin.: Well, there are a lot of secondary.
Dmitry Yushchenko: And a lot of things. So first please rate your secondary benefits. How did You hooked it?
Sergei Lepekhin.: How valuable is your could affect?
Dmitry Yushchenko: And maybe you sorry for this man. And when you live a man whose regret improves your...
Sergei Lepekhin.: self Esteem.
Dmitry Yushchenko: self-Esteem. By the way, I want to say that toxic relationships only get people with low self-esteem. Because if self-inflated: «And why do I need it. I go to another place will have a good time”. Right? Here and so. Might have been, but somehow fascinated by its behavior enter, but something. something holds You now good sex I don't know. m-m-m. Looks good... nice to show your friends or girlfriends, and I friends of friends
Sergei Lepekhin.: In a business context
Dmitry Yushchenko: there is a secondary benefit that you keep the look for each of the secondary benefits of how You can. Adrenaline also I had a client who said to me:"I return the divorced wife back," he divorced the without me. I say: “Why you every day scandals were?”. And what. “Well, I felt good after the scandal, and bored now» — said. You know, that adrenaline can be here for an actual scandal.
Sergei Lepekhin.: One of secondary benefits. Yeah.
Dmitry Yushchenko: Evaluate You can get your adrenaline pumping in a different way. Here Serezha, such as flying on airplanes. The Yak-52. Well, while in dreams.
Sergei Lepekhin.: This goal has not yet destroyed.
Dmitry Yushchenko: Not have destroyed.
Sergei Lepekhin.: Well, potrolit for a while.
Dmitry Yushchenko: Well. Potrolit. Good thing the adrenaline cool I even jumped with parachute I remember.
Sergei Lepekhin.: Well, there maize, of the Yak-52.
Dmitry Yushchenko: Well. On the Yak-52 cool. Second, so stop trying to justify his behavior it is called rationalization. Well, he is did because. Yes? He did that come in, that's how our trolling the chat so Natasha Tsareva came out and said: “Yes here you know the sex and Freud — is that generally people can find everywhere”. And before that, was there a dialogue with the one of participants. I say: ‘Cease to justify adult the boy”.
Sergei Lepekhin.: You again the fighting techniques used?
Dmitry Yushchenko: No. Not used. I tell the truth. I want to say that the person who takes you toxic relationship adult people. And it in ... able to control their behavior. And if it builds an asymmetric communication “adult — the child” or “child, adult”. He it makes a purpose. Yes. Well, let's say combat communication can line up and as “adult-child" addressing the inner child. And instead I pretend to be a child and an adult Troll. And there parent Troll, you know. If you take transactional analysis. It may be differently. So stop. Stop looking for rationalization and obyasnyalki that justify the other person's behavior. He really intelligent man.
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