Anxiety – one of the most common of human emotions. More than the anxiety we get only irritation. And that's not true of all. Those who encounter anxiety disorders, panic attacks, phobias, OCD, or some personality disorders can safely put the alarm first in a series of their emotions. And therefore we can safely say that prevention of anxiety – this is one of the most actual problems of practical psychology. We offer you together with the task to simulate.
1st horizon. When we think about our own mistakes, failures, disappointments, and self-restraint in the past tense. In this case, the alarm occurs again, in response to prolonged negative emotions (guilt, shame, resentment, disappointment). In fact, the concern arises from the fact that we do not know how to dispose of their experiences.
the 2nd horizon. When we are faced with frightening events (symptoms, emotions, thoughts) in real time. In this case, anxiety occurs because of a lack of understanding of what is happening, uncertainty that we can somehow influence what is happening.
3rd horizon. When we have some negative expectations to the future time. This is the main source of anxiety, which is based on the feeling of uncertainty of current events and potential hazards of future events.
Important caveat. All 3 horizon alarm – the results of the peculiarities of our perception and thinking – that is, those processes that we can actively and prospectively influence. In the case when relying on the defensive, adaptive patterns of thinking.
It a habit to evaluate themselves and their behaviour positively and proactively. That is a habit to look for in his behavior the benefit of the positive aspects of something pleasant or useful. It is not about self-justification, self-pity or self-deception. We are talking about the combination of the objective attitude with a positive view of yourself. Because in any situation we can arbitrarily do emotional emphasis.
I delayed the hike with a child inoculated to the last = I strongly (possible/quickly) took him to the vaccine
I visited the tax, now, as usual, will be a long wait reply = I timely (prudent/consciously) took care of their tax and reporting
I took the children to the Barber, now I would not be ashamed to pozvati people = I carefully (purposefully/carefully) drove children to the Barber shop
Try to add positive ratings to any life events that leave you smack the negativity of any degree of severity.
negative Person thinking. It is human nature to notice the bad, annoying, disturbing. After all, any real or conditional negative can be potentially dangerous and harmful. So its better to ignore and to keep in sight. All evolutionary sense. But fraught with emotional impact. But because here it is useful to be able to keep any current negativity in the strategic focus. That is, be able affirmatively and constructively to turn your anxiety, doubts and worries, to point us to our goal, and not kept us in anxious suspense. For example:
I don't understand what's happening to me. I matter to understand his condition.
I am not getting better. I matter, to feel better.
there's nothing I can do about it. I matter to influence the situation.
an Important feature of “is important to me" thinking is the continued use of the present time. When you keep in focus is not a certain point in future time, and the formation time in the present. That is not to “understand” and “understand”. Not “to influence the situation” and “make a difference”.
Try to influence your current anxiety and anxiety mode "is important to me” thinking in the present continue time.
Usually optimistic mean some kind of inner confidence in a bright future. If you are lucky to have such a gift – rejoice. But if you consider yourself a pessimist or a realist, then you can help yourself in the following way. Remember the phrase: “you want to amuse God, tell him your plans for tomorrow?”. The essence of this phrase is easy to take root in the human psyche – we can easily begin to doubt and worry about events that are out of our direct influence. We can only assume the future, guess it, to be safe. We intuitively understand that the future is vague and uncertain. But there's a caveat. Is the concept of the short-term future. For example, in your life come Monday morning. This day has already happened, has already begun. That has already begun, what we have perceived, we perceived differently, not as a conditional tomorrow, next week or next year. Man is much easier to be optimistic in the current day than in the rest of the future. This is illogical. But it is possible to use. And it can be verified.
But can to get a productive working day …
it Will be good when today, the revenue will be quite high …
hope conceived today will be done …
Try to leave the future only at the level of specific objectives and plans and …the short-term (for today only) optimism.
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