Sometimes people say: "I don't like to communicate." Or: "I don't like talking about nothing. Here on business to speak of I am always happy". And some say: "Be not a problem for me, I love the scene."
Why does some communication with a large number of people and public speaking are easy, but for others there is nothing worse in the world? Why are some people outgoing and others seem closed? And can it be changed?
how we manifest ourselves in communication, often due to the structure of our psyche. How easily we can get in touch with other people, to communicate, in General, whether we like to say, to speak in public, to be seen, often depends on such psychophysiological characteristics as temperament.
Temperament is a property of the individual, which reflects the sensitivity (sensitivity) activity, the rate of a reaction, emotional excitability, plasticity/rigidity, extraversion/introversion.
simply put, carriers of different temperaments have different speed of mental reactions, flexible switching of attention and sensitivity. Representatives of different temperaments in different ways and at different speeds react to the events of the outer world. M. E. Litvak gives an example. "Take the standard, often repeated the situation on our streets. After rain riding with great speed, the car squirts a passer-by with mud from head to toe. It is not excluded that this was done on purpose. Hot-headed with high reactivity curses of the driver, laughing sanguine, phlegmatic calmly brings order to your suit, the melancholic may cry".
the Data features of different temperaments manifest themselves in communication. Ignorance and neglect of the peculiarities of their temperament may be the cause of failures in communication.
Consider how manifest themselves in the fellowship holders of different temperaments.
Sanguine thrive in the spotlight, on the stage, especially if they do not lack artistic abilities. Usually a sanguine lot of joking and smiling. Easier of all, they are entertaining, humorous speeches, they like to crack jokes in the company and to communicate with a large number of people. One gets the impression that there is no best temperament for the stage. They love the audience, and the audience pays them the same.
However, this is not about speeches, where the required depth and structure of discussion threads. Beach sanguine – superficiality. They tend to take more charm than depth of knowledge. Artistic sanguine could fail during a scientific report, which requires deep immersion in the topic and analysis.
hot-headed by their very nature – the leader, it is natural to be a leader, to lead people. A lot of choleric in politics. Classic examples – Adolf Hitler, Peter the great. Of the modern can be called Vladimir Zhirinovsky. The performances of the choleric always passionate. They can easily motivate and encourage listeners to change their lives, to speak in large auditoriums, to "ignite" the crowd in the squares. Emotional contagion and suggestion are the main skate such speakers.
However, the choleric sometimes "puts" - they can fall into undue excitement or to pass all bounds in his statements, in this argument in their speeches may be weak. Relying on the suggestion, which is an irrational way – for example, strength of voice, emotional speech, personal authority, such speakers sometimes forget about the logic and evidence for their persuasive speeches.
Phlegmatic has a slow, smooth movements, external equanimity. While it may take a while and a lot of work, it is characterized by high activity and performance. Bright side of the phlegmatic – methodical, analytical skills. Among phlegmatic lot of engineers, scientists, analysts, and strategists military operations, business consultants. Best of all, they feel they are not at the forefront, and in the "headquarters" where you need to be able to analyze the situation and develop a plan of action.
In the speeches of calm phlegmatic justify their opinions. He likes the rational and logical methods of proof, he is unlikely to beat the table with his fist, excited and appeal to the audience. The disadvantage of his speech style can be some dryness and excessive brevity, especially in situations where it is necessary to open up personal and to share the emotions at the dinner table, in the company.
Phlegmatic in General tend to keep silent any longer, especially if we are not talking about the subject in which he is well versed. In the company he can sit in silence all evening. This restraint others may perceive as a distrust and aversion to him personally. So phlegmatic, it is worth considering how others perceive them, often smile and take the initiative in the conversation.
by the Way, presumably, our current President Vladimir Putin – the phlegmatic person. It is not a charismatic leader, but the thoroughness with which it performs its tasks, drive for results, ability to bring cases to the end are forced to feel respect for him. He is not inclined to "spread" the emotions in their speeches, neither positive nor negative. During the press conference, he calmly and thoroughly answers all the questions, trying not to miss anything. His vocal style can be described as: "quiet strength".
Melancholy is characterized by weak activity and high sensitivity. In General, melancholic really don't like to know about myself is that they are melancholic. Nobody wants to be melancholic. Although Aristotle suggested that all of the famous and outstanding people were melancholic. And if we look at the history of science and art, we find confirmation of this. Melancholic did the most profound and brilliant discoveries, created the greatest masterpieces. Melancholic was the philosopher Descartes, composers F. Chopin, P. I. Tchaikovsky, writers N. In. Gogol, poets I. Brodsky, Yesenin.
Melancholic, and phlegmatic are often introverts. Therefore, they can seem withdrawn and uncommunicative. To help in this case can only "favorite horse" is the subject in which they are familiar. There is a rule: if you want to talk to an introvert, try to ask him about his exciting items. More knowledgeable and interesting people you will find, I assure you! Sensitive melancholic may also experience increased anxiety before public speaking. Therefore, it is, perhaps, more than all the right psychological preparation.
Could the melancholic to be a speaker? Of course! My favorite speaker is M. E. Litvak, a scientist, a psychotherapist of world renown, a leading psychological workshops and trainings - melancholic. Its main strength is the irony and surprise of the ideas that he expresses and deep effectiveness of the methods that it offers to their wards in solving their life problems. While he has no ounce of shyness, anxiety or sadness. It is confident, optimistic, sincere and witty man. But, as he himself says, the result of psychological preparation.
Despite all the differences in temperament, we cannot say that the carriers of certain temperaments are unable to speak and easily communicate. The secret of confidence is to consider your strengths and bet on them.
Thus, for the media of each temperament, you can choose the most effective way to address and any oratorical genre.
Choleric more suitable for the role of the speakers-tribunes performing in front of massive audiences. Their genres – the agitation and propaganda speech, motivational speech and a sermon. Practice, they can easily convince the listeners, affecting them not only logically, but also emotionally.
the Most successful role for sanguine – speakers-comedians. Listen other sanguine-the lecturer from the lecture and the speech-Petrosian. There was a joke on the joke, so sometimes I even forget what all this lecture. With so much talent better in the "Comedy club" to play! Well these speakers will be given to the events, the opening and closing events, congratulations. Their genres – congratulatory speech, humorous speech, jokes, tales, anecdotes, stories of life.
Phlegmatic will be good in the role of lecturers, speakers, leading business events and presentations. Because of its thoroughness, and the psychological stability they can try themselves in genres that require careful preparation and well thought-out argument, for example, in a speech at the trial or scientific report. The most phlegmatic fits the image of the speaker is an expert.
Melancholic in General, everything is allowed, because of whatever they undertook, they do it in a very special way. Is that it difficult can be a "hard genres" that require resourcefulness and the ability to parry, for example, in the political debate. A good for such speakers is the genre that requires subtle perception and allowing them to pour out his soul. For example, it can be full of amazing experiences stories. Or analysis of the current business situation with a vision of the future. Or the story of their discovery. Most importantly, the melancholic had the opportunity to Express themselves in speech.
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