What do you want?
I do Not know. World peace... Well, don't laugh. Probably that we were all healthy, my husband and child.
- And?
- Work not to lose.
- And?
- vacation is good to go this summer - long sea not seen... However (here the tone changes), life will show.
At that time, as that head in the clouds all your life, there are many responsible men and women for whom dreams are taboo. They are firmly grasped in the hand of her little tit, with his eyes to the sky. Suddenly, while wandering gaze somewhere far away, under the feet asunder, the earth? We need to be vigilant.
they are guarding.
did Not fare well, and used nothing.
From Sumy Yes from prison...
Want harmful.
About the fact that “want bad”, they were taught even in the family, again and again explaining the absurdity of their children's desires.
- What, another doll? You have a dozen old, isn't it?
- Dress as Varya? Now we'll be as Varya?
- Dog? And something smarter we can do?
So parents do not know that between the acceptance of desires and the response to it - is an abyss. Yes, a new dress today may not afford, and a dog in a Studio apartment - not the best solution, but can say this honestly, without criticism and ridicule. For example: “I know you really want this and I'm sad to say no”. Our feelings and desires have a right to exist without editing. That's when we feel alive one hundred.
When dreams are hindered by the lack of money or opportunities - it's not the end of the world. You can search for an alternative, to procrastinate, to come up with something else... And quite another when they stumble upon the wicked rating. At such moments, questioned all your essence, and that hurt, too. Probably thinks child, you just have to want to stop. It is necessary to become himself a stern mother, who in a “what if...” responsible “and there is nothing here”. Dreams are for the idlers, and all the normal people live, moving in small steps, from problem to problem. It's safer that way.
But this is not a story about blame the parents, not taught to follow my dreams. People who are able to play by the rules, grow up in all families - even the most inert. Is the totality of the circumstances, external and internal, that lead to the fact that a person loses the ability to want things. In place of desires comes the fatigue, do not let go even after a 10 hour sleep. Why, even after the holidays.
the World of dreamers is full of anxiety. Foods with GMOs, cancer, the Americans, the dollar is rising, trust is falling. Life is unkind. She never asks what you want. It gives just enough to survive, and the magician in the blue helicopter again landed on a strange street.
- Mother Sonia's parents flew to India for a month!
- people Do nothing.
These words fly out before have something to think about. A month in India? Blatant arrogance. You have been living under martial law, humbly waiting for the all-new evils, and these loafers are spending money on Goa. Once upon a time you, too, dreamed of India, but of course don't remember.
all the talk about dreams, baffled, causing a surge of annoyance. What are dreams for, if you can hardly make the way from “should” to “must”, and the forces getting smaller? The body and brain go into power saving mode. Books and music are annoying, as well as the household. Life seems meaningless a quest.
- What the soul asks?
- to Sleep. Only to sleep.
what are You happy?
- what is there to rejoice?
Often the beginning of depression is preceded by a long period of lack of desire. Yet boredom and apathy, but you know exactly what is necessary to be content small. And it is a vicious circle, because nothing is wanting, you lose motivation to go forward.
the Truth is that wishes and dreams allow us to obtain more than a living wage, and I'm not talking about money. They give the strength to get out of bed the black and terrible December morning. They fill the body with energy, and the soul - the calm belief in yourself, because between “want” and “can” the distance is nothing at all. World bold visionary filled with a host of interesting possibilities; he is generous, funny in its unpredictability and not very dangerous.
Desire to inspire. Desires make wiser. Desire allow you to go beyond your limits. “Want a dog” is sometimes a deep knowledge of animal psychology and “I want to India,” creates a business that allows you to travel. Ideas, like children, are born from the desire turns into action. Will not the desire to be empty, but she did not give birth.
Remember the story about the sick girl told Kuprin? The girl wanted to visit her came the elephant. In fact, her desire was the spark of life.
I know how hard it is to rock the flywheel desires, when he is rusty. At first it seems that everything I touch causes boredom - especially on the way out of depression (and because of that, therapy with pleasure - a mandatory part of working with this disease). But boredom is hiding fear. What if I want to, but will not be able to get it? What if the life will punish you for too bold a wish? If you need me you start to laugh? And if I succeed, then what is to be done next?
Really scary.
But life, unlike harsh parents, not punished for desire. By and large, she doesn't care whether we want to climb Everest or prefer tea at the TV. All our worst critics - inside us, but the desperate dreamers, too, somewhere in the depths. I think the last time to release into the wild.
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