In psicoterapeuti interpersonal relations in the pair when sexual complexes, of particular importance are:
1.definition of basic behavioral patterns (complexes of motor acts), leading to strengthening of negative tendencies in relations between partners.
2.transfer partners from confrontation (confrontation, confrontation) to cooperation: *to develop and mainstream the practice of positive and productive forms of communication with each other; *improving communication, promoting understanding, trust and openness (for example, in the expression of their own feelings and desires in relation to each other), etc.
For partners from confrontation to cooperation specialists use special equipment. Look at some of them.
Technique "Incomplete sentences" (modification of A. V. Chernikov)
Objective: modification of the nature of communication in pair
Time needed to implement technology: 15-20 minutes.
instructions: Partners are opposite each other. Alternately they need to complete a series of unfinished sentences. All proposals must be completed. Both partners need to go through the list of unfinished sentences 3-4 times.
List of incomplete sentences:
1.I love that you...
2.I get upset when you..
3. I hate it when you ...
4. I appreciate you...
5. We could have different...
Result: partners are clearly satisfied: *ease of manifestation of negative feelings and emotions against each other; *the complexity and difficulty to begin to openly recognize the advantages of a partner.
Value of machinery: *stimulation of dialogue between partners *structuring and security of their communication: use of language in the form of I-statements, balance expressions of negative and positive emotions/feelings, the designation of the directions of the desired changes.
note. Traditionally this technique: * does not meet strong resistance *reduces the level of family conflict (scoring positive characteristics of the partner), and *provides changes to procedural characteristics of communication partners (for example: holding back a verbose and silent wife encourages husband) *allows you to explore the basic content of mutual claims.
Technique "Onbargenie sexual problems" (Bach and Wyden)
Objective: the development of avykowitusowogen sexual problems.
Time needed to implement technology: 20-30 minutes.
instructions: Partners need to agree in advance about the time and day of the discussion of sexual problems (e.g., the second half of Saturday or early Sunday). Before the conversation, both partners should have a good rest.Partners are opposite each other. To speak only in turn, doslušivaâ partner. Keep the discussion strictly on the following rules:
*speak only in clearly defined issue, and not to depart from him.
*to explain clearly and concisely your problem/complaint.
*show (pantomime) that understands the partner,
*to search and to offer the partner variable and alternative ways (three or more) solution to the question (desired positive change)
*to consider all proposed partner solutions to the issue to receive feedback until then, until a compromise is found.
note. Traditionally this technique: *meets some resistance, produces the skill of looking for compromise solutions and their variability *increases the likelihood of finding solutions to problems *ensures that changes to the procedural characteristics of communication partners (hear and listen to a partner, etc.)
to be Continued...
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