- what is your dream? – I asked.
- to go to Moscow – said a thirty-year man.
a man 30 years old, well dressed, handsome. In the beginning of our meeting, he announced that he came simply to talk. Accumulated, and to speak out nowhere and no one. Home said went to the dentist. Visibly nervous, he avoids the face of the interlocutor.
he Began to talk about what he wants to divorce his wife. Home does not want to go there feels a stranger. Between him and wife no feelings. After the birth of a child, at the time the child was 3 years, the wife quite ceases to notice it, her husband, and is fully focused on the child. He and his wife practically do not communicate. Wife just reported that the need for a child. the Whole story is dull, colorless voice.
my questions:
– And as it was before, before the baby, you if You loved this woman, wanted to get married? – answers evasively.
- Well, we met the parents said that it is necessary to issue relations. We got married.
- whether You Wanted the child, what feelings to him?
his Wife had to give birth, she's my age, pull the doctors do not recommend. I spend a lot of time at work, the baby hardly see.
- What prevents You to get a divorce?
Condemn, relatives and colleagues at work. The family must be preserved. Suddenly more animated and begins to talk about how I met a girl. How they communicated. Just drank coffee and talked. As he waited for these meetings felt that he was someone interesting and necessary. But his wife read his phone SMS from the girl. Complained to his mother that he talks to girls. And they are together, the wife and mother found the girl very strongly and spoke to her. After this conversation, the girl refuses to communicate with him. Talking about these events, the man looked like a child who took away the only favorite toy. Recovery has disappeared from the face, the voice again became colorless.
When the end of our meeting I asked him what he wants. He thought for a long time, and then said that he wants to go to Moscow. This despite the fact that this man lives in Moscow region. To my surprised question of what prevents the realization of the dream. Answered – So it is necessary to someone. And I have no one.
unfortunately people are endless “need”, “should”, “ I know better what you need” the parents of a child are weaned to hear their desires, not too little. They live without joy, mechanical fulfilling the requirements of others. They are unhappy themselves and can't give happiness to others. In addition, many did not become truly adults, have not learned to take responsibility for themselves. No desires-no responsibility for what happened as a result of the fulfillment of desires. You said, and I did, for what happened in the end - responsibility.
these people need help and time to ensure that they have learned to desire and means - Live!
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