This publication was inspired by the Sochi intensive Gestalt Institute of... lots of meetings, tenderness, warmth, conflict, gratitude ... views, thoughts, enjoyment of people, from shower. Thanks to everyone who was with me, whom I sincerely accepted and supported, and those who have supported me and endured with me these days!
“a Few words about the sense of your place in life. If a person is all there is - there is housing, money, work, but no reliable relationship, people to reach, to lean, to be heard and supported, then people may not feel in his place. It lacks support.” is a piece, almost a quote from a lecture at the Sochi intensive IGI.
In our individualistic world, where people have become very lonely, and “to gossip, to think about the fate of” was not accepted , and sometimes not with anyone. People don't like to hear complaints, do not complain, do not ask for support. And well, of course, that life has become individualistic - after total subordination to the interests't know who under the form of subordination of the common good. In total submission and disregard for the interests of the person increased generation. And now there was a rollback on the other pole, the interests of the unit prevail.
But, really, if I “Packed” for the full, but no sincere ones, ones soul - to whom can you open your life, your pain, your feelings - everything around me falls, falls the background of life. To rely on you created “material” can be, but this is not enough. If you rely only on it, can be very anxiety, feeling of loneliness, meaninglessness, helplessness. It is important to rely not only on themselves and their material acquisitions, but also to other people, to feel part of a larger.
In this state, people often come in Gestalt therapy.
Sitting in the group of strangers. I'm restless and I don't know what they are and what you can expect from them. But starting to get acquainted, to meet eyes, linger look, I understand that the anxiety calms down. And I feel like start to rely on these meetings, these eyes opposite... a very interesting feeling arises that this support arises inside of me. As if meeting the eyes sustains me from the inside. I suppose it says we are particles of one great Soul...
So what you can rely on in life?
of Course on yourself, your body. The body never lies. Listen to him, love, respect, take care. The body is the only thing that connects You to THIS life. How to rely on him - to feel the legs, feet, connection with the earth. If sit - feel the bones of the pelvis, which effectively rely on a chair, put your legs tighter. Feel the spine - your inner core, strength and flexibility.
to Build on your skills, history skills.
And of course loved ones - better footing in life to allocate - if not find - person 6 non-family members. To rely, it does not mean to sit in their neck, is to have their mind connected. Know that you have them and can support. And support, we often need a little bit to see eye to eye. To visit, to share. To hug, to sit. Sometimes to cry in the shoulder. Sometimes be asked to take care of. Because You will be able to respond in kind when they need.
Try to look in his notebook of people you have them? Contact them, tell them that they are important for you...
And You are in your life, what most rely on?
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