In the presented article, I want to share my observations. In the article, the Allergy will be considered from psychological-pedagogical point of view.
Communication with children is interesting, and which – extent unpredictable. Children under 3.5 years direct. Children copy everything quickly, from gestures ending with the words. Great influence on the child at this age, having the parenting style in the family.
From the style of education in the family depends on the child's perception of the surrounding world. There are several styles of child rearing in the family. It's authoritarian, permissive, democratic, chaotic, aloof, and protective parenting style. In the context of this article are interested in an overprotective style of child rearing in the family. This style of parenting, has the following characteristics:
-the desire of parents to be constantly about the child;
-restriction of the autonomy of the child, the desire to do everything for him;
-the high anxiety of the parents, obsessive thoughts about the life and health of the child;
- ignoring the desires and needs of the child, the desire to do everything for him, for example, to feed, clothe, wash;
- distrust of parents to the child's capabilities.
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which can lead to an overprotective parenting style:
- the passivity of the child, the expectation that adults all of it will make.
- the Child may become aggressive, disobedient, self-willed.
Often, many parents notice that the child becomes uncontrollable, showing negativism, obstinacy, due to the lack of understanding by adults of the desire of the child to grow up.
Can sformirovalis the following chain of events: the child shows samostojatelnosti - adults inhibit - the child resists, rebels, provoked - adults suppress - formed allergic reaction.
for Example, a child's wish wash hands, wear clothes, clean up toys, eat.
the Child himself takes the interest and the desire for independence, gets a ban of adult “impossible”, “do not touch”, “I'll be wearing”, while the adults commented “you can», «you can not». In response, the child begins to get annoyed, angry. With the constant suppression of the self of the child begins to form allergies, as a protest "don't touch me”.
In my practice I have met several such children. First, I noticed on allergies in children. And only then began to study the parenting style in the family. There were 5 cases, of which 5 families had children in the hyperopic style with elements of the authoritarian style of parenting.
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