if we Tend to please ourselves, to take care of themselves, fulfill their desires, meet their needs, to revere their own way...? Typical of us to be ourselves judge, hope, support, reserve capacity is to be yourself and a wall and a cradle...? And to be a personality when "Man – it sounds proudly!" is quite literally realized in relation to your own...?
Why so often we look around, waiting for the reaction of the people around us on how we dressed, how shod, properly say if I went, and there said, that if we the status of whether our gender and age for the labor feats, so if we have children and husbands to a certain age, how much "should", whether we are brought up and educated, and a lot of waiting and waiting on the others...
is it because we live with a persistent eye on the society that it can be quite profitable to ourselves: too lazy to think and decide, but you can see how others are doing and copy their behavior – to follow a stranger, but well-trodden trail. And if something does not work, tell yourself and others "Everyone is doing it, but not at all impossible, then that's my fate!"
Psychologists often talk about responsibility for one's life. The Foundation of a psychologically Mature individual, which, of course, looking all around, but it works, based on their own motives and needs.( Of course, we are not talking about violating the laws.) Everyone is capable of what he's personally capable of and he can't be all-powerful, no matter how trying to conform to certain rules and standards of society.
Not anyone can and is capable of certain achievements. Not just anyone can earn millions. Not any one can have higher education. Not anyone can have a family and children. Not everyone can boast of exceptionally good health or beauty. Not every person can have many friends and associates. There is always one who has in abundance what we have. If you try to think about such things, the value of the opinions of others will (must!) gradually decline.
for Years, waiting for the marks of others, adjusting to largely under someone else's opinion, or influence, we put ourselves into the framework of templates and graphics, thus wasting valuable time for businesses, who are quite capable to handle yourself. What practical good is it to praise us or to discuss? Look obliquely or straight? Say dramatically, gently or navret with three boxes...will Help us to resolve everything, to fill, to achieve the desired result? And, maybe, it makes sense to leave a careful study of the opinions of the crowd to your account for any reason... so many of Them out there - in the crowd, and what they really want when they say us your opinion outright if they are at this time good whether they are interested in what we are now is vital to decide!? How to say...How to say it.
If you look around carefully, you will notice that the people who depend on the opinions of others, often anxious and indecisive, they have few friends, and interesting events in life, not everything went smoothly at work, school, family. And especially revealing is that they feel a strong displeasure and irritation to the environment that can, in fact, impossible - participation in his life, indifference to myself often completely innocent people! And that is as it should be, this servitude is to isolate a vast array of different opinions only true to themselves... and whether it is possible to isolate.
Our case is like that shirt that only close to our body. Our problems are quickly forgotten by others, even those who are trying here and now hard to advise, to instruct, to convince, or impose their opinion. Well else would we be able to distinguish between normal talkers entertainers from those who are willing and able to provide real practical support and assistance.
a simple Understanding of these meanings can help us to become more independent, more responsible and decisive, and last but not least, more modern and successful.
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