- My husband and I chose as a clay for molding.
I looked at him and said, “What a handsome good boy”.
He modestly lowered his eyes, and I thought that it is possible to make an ideal husband. Six months later we were married.
to get what I want, I had to become that which I do not want to be and are not.
I sacrificed themselves for his sake, for the sake of our future happiness, which I myself invented for the happiness of our child. And waited for what he would do the same.
I was offended when my expectations are not met.
I tried to be a good homemaker and wife, I feast and gave him gifts, even on his birthday.
And it?
He was just saying that because I run the family budget, he had no money on me gifts.
He was throwing tantrums, making scenes of jealousy.
He answered me, the manipulation and aggression.
He didn't want anything.
And you know the sad thing?
- What?
I did not receive what was trying so hard not to be yourself.
This is for all the others we had the perfect family, because we are very diligently pretended. I even her most intimate friends are not recognized, like I suffered.
Although, they guessed, as it turned out later, after the divorce.
what happened next?
- Then there was a new relationship almost to the old scenario. All the same illusion and expectations, bringing even more pain and resentment.
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And so can last a lifetime. Or for as long as people don't ask themselves the question:
- Why is that so? Why is it the same scenario?
And then there will be answers.
They are different:
- Because no one is taught to build family relationships.
- Because the parent sample was not before his eyes.
- Because soaked from the literature and movie scripts relationship was far from ideal and often built on manipulation.
- Because the perception of the role of Women and Wives in particular, is strongly distorted.
- Because the role of Wife, her interaction with her Husband, is given very little value.
In the end
Because I came up with an image, which it's not. I didn't take it for what it is. But he could not justify my expectations, simply because he's not.
my decision was to remake it, make it how I want it to be. It is for this I sacrifice its interests, adjusting to and caving in under him, expecting that he will appreciate my sacrifices and also change. I did what I don't want, I wasn't myself, I was playing someone else's role, and she was offended and then made a complaint.
I'm from the very moment of our acquaintance, lived in a world of illusions, waiting for the result of the efforts invested by me and brought me to the sacrifice.
What to do?
Awareness – half the battle!
the Second half – the changing scenario of the current behavior.
you need to learn and understand:
- How to build family relationships
- Who's WIFE?
you May have to undergo personal therapy for the study of traumatic moments that led to such a perception and such actions, and to work to change the script.
And will definitely have to change their perception of the role of Wives and their behavior with manipulative ply on the consciously sincere.
this will help?
- find examples of happy relationships in your environment.
- Open a sincere dialogue with a partner.
- And yet, the study of the study of the role of Wives from different perspectives, awareness and acceptance of all its manifestations, its archetypal energy. The feeling of this energy within itself and awareness of its impact on your partner.
the Entry class called "the archetype of the Wife" online course "the Brink of Womanhood" provides practical tools and energy practices that will help you to understand, accept and fully unleash this energy, this role.
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